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writes:okayso Ive been dating this guy for awhile now. since begining of april. I have never been so into a guy befor. I know we love eachother. Only thing is this fall he is leaving for school, and I am leaving for a 9 month program were i cant come home or leave. Is it possible to stay together? any tips or advise? Im mostly worried he will find someone else, or that we won't be able to be there for eachother. tips? advise? warnings??? help! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks guys!
I hope we work out, ill keep yea informed in the months ahead
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reader, Juliette  +, writes (17 July 2008):
 I like the Buddhist idea on this. Try to just enjoy each day as it comes and do not plan for the future. If you make plans and have hopes you will only suffer if it does not work out. If you like each other then why not keep in touch as friends, but avoid possessiveness and make new friends. If you are meant for each other, your bond will remain even throughout meeting new people, and if either of you meet someone new, then resign yourself to it now, that you just have to move on and see your experience was positive and appreciate the time you enjoyed together as part of learning new relationships.
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reader, Juliette +, writes (17 July 2008):
I like the Buddhist idea on this. Try to just enjoy each day as it comes and do not plan for the future. If you make plans and have hopes you will only suffer if it does not work out. If you like each other then why not keep in touch as friends, but avoid possessiveness and make new friends. If you are meant for each other, your bond will remain even throughout meeting new people, and if either of you meet someone new, then resign yourself to it now, that you just have to move on and see your experience was positive and appreciate the time you enjoyed together as part of learning new relationships.
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reader, PsyCookie  +, writes (17 July 2008):
 Love knows no barriers.
What you could do is start a long-distance relationship. Set times of when you can talk on the phone. Set times when you can talk on the internet. Write to each other.
As stated before, love knows no barriers. It doesn't know the barrier of distance. It doesn't know the barrier of time. They don't stop it. Don't give up hope in your relationship. If you know that he loves you, he'll wait for you as you will wait for him.
When you do talk to him, make quality time. Don't fight with him or nag to him or make him feel guilty. Try to have fun with him. Express whatever you're feeling about him all the time. Always remind him you love him. This will keep him waiting for you and you waiting for him.
Good luck and I wish you the best for your relationship.
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reader, asian tealeaf +, writes (17 July 2008):
 ANYTHING can work, if u want it to. its a matter of application and dedicationn to commiting oneself to something they believe in with all their heart. love is no exception.bear in mind it takes two to have the same committing feelings and being aware that yes, there is always temptations, but,just what are u both willing to sacrifice to see this thru?are u weak hearted? are u a firm minded person who has the capability to ignore outside influences and keep ur mind focused on what u have made a priority in ur life?a relationship is like marriage, except without the papers.so, keep in mind many people who are married are not always physically around, travelling for business purposes etc, and while some people get sidetracked unfortunatley, many also remain faithful to their other half while away. and so really, what would the difference be, in this? ok, ur not married. but, ur still in a relationship at this point. so what makes this any different? either the committment is there, or its not. and the people who whine about the long distance etc have already limited themselves to what they can accomplish. so look at this from this standpoint, u can limit urself and say its to difficult, too hard to withstand the seperation etc. or, u can look at it from another view. its a temporary seperation, a necessary one, as its only to further urselves for later in life, for careers, for stability etc. and is this not what every human strives for? for stability and success? so talk with ur loved one, and see how he feels and where he stands. show him ur willing to commit urself and concentrate on the important things at hand, ur future, but that everything u both are doing is for the greater good, and that when and if things work out and u both are together again, u will both be successful individuals who will be bringing forth back into the relationship, strength, committment, love and successful careers that will contribute to financial aspects and other important issues that relate to having a lifelong loving relationship. if u cant stick together when the going gets tough, then how can u be there for the easy times? life has its ups and downs. if ur both there for eachother at rockbottom, and during those most trying times life deals u,then u can certainly handle and face anything together. this is a statement of fact. good luck and i hope u will give me feedback on anything u might of found agreement with, or u struggle with. or, just any progress u may have made over time with ur bf.
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