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writes:Okay, well for the past 3 or so months I have REALLY liked someone. He is really good friends with a lot of my close friends. One night I was with him and I really felt he was starting to share the same feelings. And then I went on holidays a couple days after for over a month. And we didn't see each other or speak that much, and then all of a sudden he met someone and started dating her, so by the time i got home he had a girlfriend. I have been out with them since and it was so hard seeing them together. I don't want to sabotage our friendship by telling him as he is really committed to her, I also can't tell any of my friends incase it gets back to him somehow. Even though I don't personally know his girlfriend well, I don't want to hurt her either.So it is like I am stuck, I can't get over him, and it is really hard. What should I do? Should I tell him or just wait till i eventually get over him?
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (12 January 2010):
 Chances are that they will break up eventually.
This is a really frustrating situation to be in. I can offer the vantage point of someone who has been in a similar situation... just maintain a friendship with him, but don't reveal your feelings, or try to break them up. I agree that trying to steal him away would make you look bad.
If they eventually break up, however, then don't let your chance pass you by.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (12 January 2010):
I think you'd be better getting over him. If he had fancied you, he wouldn't have gone out with this new girl. And if you tell him, you'll look bad for trying to steal him away. Let hi go.
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