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writes:Hey guys, I've been reading the questions/replies from this site for a while. It's only now that I've felt like I've had a situation for which I could use this service.There's a guy at my work who has been staring at me. I'm not imagining it at all (as some friends have suggested). I'm talking about the full-on, never looking away, always keeping his eyes glued to me stare. Even when I catch him staring, he doesn't seem to care. It unnerves me somewhat.Today at work he even stopped what he was doing to watch me walk past him. My problem is that I never know how to react in that kind of situation. I'm naturally a person who makes eye contact a lot and I smile when I see someone I know, so I treated him like I would treat any other co-worker - holding his gaze and smiling. Suddenly I got the sense that my actions had taken on a whole new meaning. Afterwards he became very flirtatious and complimented me more than normal.I really don't want to flirt with him. How do I react to his staring, yet still be friendly? I'm not the type of person who can just freeze someone out. The situation seems a little tricky.Any advice would be appreciated!
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reader, Paladin  +, writes (23 March 2008):
 You are correct these things are somewhat complicated. I suggest you continue to be yourself anything else would make you even more uncomfortable. Now, what to do about him I believe the best thing you could do is look for an opportune time either when speaking to him or when you know he can hear you talking to someone else and let it be know you would never date a person from work. Which by the way is good advice as workplace relationships have a tendency to create other problems. For whatever reason he seems to think he has picked up a signal or is hoping to simply let you know he is attracted to you. If you choose not to use my earlier suggestion then just keep doing what you’re doing and when and if he does make an advance you will simply have tell him no. The only problem with this is that the staring contest could go on for a while.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (23 March 2008):
 Just be straight faced and unemotional as ice and he will give
up seeing this kind of reactions from you.
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