A
female
age
51-59,
anonymous
writes:My cousin is currently separated from wife and is at a weak point in life. He knows a "lady" who helps him out financially (they have been friends for awhile and she has told him that she has feelings for him). I have a feeling she is going to ask him to pay her back in more ways than one(like moving in with her and conviently she is moving nearby us). I don't want him to jeopardize his visitation with his child by him "hookin" up with this person who by the way is tryin to replace her baby's daddy with my cousin (who is a great guy).My question is I want to bust the "lady" before she ruins my cousin's life. I want to pubically out her and I don't know how to do it and without it coming back to my cousin that I was the one who did it. Please help me help my cousin.
View related questions:
cousin Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2008): This is Female US 41-50 again thank you to talktoomuch and Uncle Phil. I agree with you both saying I should let him do this on his own. It is hard to "sit back" and let the chips fall where they may but I know I have to. It bugs me that He's going to get played and I want to shout from the roof tops that I know her first and an cell and she's just "evil" but I get what you all are sayin.
Trust me I have agonized over this and have told my cousin that I will always be there for him (and have told him not to move too fast with this girl also) but I sadly have to let it happen and be there for him and hope to God she doesn't hurt him like his exes have.
Thanks again and I wouldn't mind keeping you all "updated if that's ok. Just in case I need more advice. Cause truth be known I'm not that experienced in relationships and not that knowledgable on the subject
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2008): This is Female US 41-50 in reponse to Uncle Phil. You are right about if I keep downing this woman he'll do the opposite. I left out a few things about my cousin's situation. He has had his heart handed to him really bad from his last 2 relations (ex-girlfriend cheated on him and his soon to be ex-wife cheating om him). I know that he's a "big" boy and can run his life but I've been thru this current break up with his soon 2 be ex for over 9 monthsShe lead him down a road of hope thinking that they had a chance to work it out but all the while she was planning to leave him. And the week prior to her leaving was horrible on him that he attempted to kill himself because of her not wanting to talk about their relationship and getting phones calls on his cell that she was cheating on him and it was somebody he knew. Then the B said ( after he did what he did) she couldn't take it anymore and left him while he was in the hospital.My cousin is like a brother to me and since all this has happened plus him getting into an near death motorcycle accident I just want what is best for him.Maybe I'm wrong for budding in but I have always been a big hearted person and very protective of my family. So shoot me for giving a damn. Thanks for the advise and I'll try to be cautious.
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2008): I'm guessing your cousin is old and wise enough to make his own decisions, no matter how fragile he might be at the moment. Maybe he doesn't really need any help.
If you go telling him what a shit she is and they get on like a house on fire, you'll be the one taking the flak. If I were you I'd let him make his own mistakes - if indeed there are any to be made.
I'd be interested to know if you just have his best interests at heart, or if you fancy a piece of him yourself?
...............................
|
