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writes:Good Evening to all Aunt Agonies,Im now troubled with a relationship status that im unsure where its heading to. Theres this girl i got to know during a casual gaming session, it all started off with just plain gaming buddies and we slowly progressed off to meeting up for a dinner once in week. Apparently i got attracted to her, the problem is im not a dating guru or equivalent, throughout my 25 yrs of life ive only dated 2 girls and they were long relationships that i put my heart in - 2yrs and 5yrs period. So now after being for single for 5 yrs, ive somehow forgotten how its like to woo a girl. She had a few bad relationships before so she has told me shes not ready for another yet had told me not to put in too much feelings into her as shes afraid i will be hurt in the end. In my mind, i still want to put in 100% so even if i fail, i wun have any regrets. Ive learnt that heartbreak will be cured over time, but regret pretty much follows you forever. I didnt want to pressure her anyway as im still willingly to wait and see if she really suits me but somehow i think my approach is a bit too obvious, n too strong she emailed me to treat her as a friend, not to be so good to her like a gf, and that my actions are too fake. Im deeply affected by what she said because while some are true, some i dont agree at all, but i din want to argue with her as im very afraid i will make things worst. When i thought she will probably ignore me for the ridiculous things i do, she still maintained this friendship with me, like meeting up for smoking sessions, dinner and some shoppings. This makes me getting more confused everyday, the actions she do, the messages she wrote. She would occasionally touch my hair and say im cute and silly. She smsed me messages like i would want to see you now. She would talk to me about her family and personal problems. She would come to my place to play her games, and she has even slept over once, we din do anything, i slept on the floor instead. So i cant guess what shes thinking ? does she like me ? sometimes she can be really ridiculous and angry with me coz i like to repeat some small things to her which im nt sure why did i do that cause i dont do it to others at all? I enjoy her company and how things are now, but something in me keep wanting to know how she feels of me, and my whole person has become very affected by what she does and replies, if or if not she contacts me. I hope to seek some advice and somehow persuade me to do things in the right direction. Its been sometime i felt so strongly for someone and i dont want to do wrong again. Ive not officially asked her to be my girlfriend to begin with yet, i dont know how and i dont know when ? Anyway this complicated issues been going on for just 3months, so i hope to set things right now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2011): Bro all u need to do is take her out on a nice, planned date with dinner and a comedy show or some chick flick lol and ice cream and talk with her and tell her your feelings at the end of the nite if things go well. Youll never know unless u try and 99% of percent of the shots you dont take, dont go in. Good luck.
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reader, please help me  +, writes (6 March 2011):
 it sounds like you really do have feelings for her why else would you ask for help, the only reason why she says she thinks you are being fake is because she is too scared to let anyone back into her life , this girl has been through a lot it seems like you are doing things right and if she keeps telling you personal things it means that she wants you to know things that no one else she wants you to confort her, tell her exactally how you feel you want to be the only one in her life you want to be the wall she leans on all you want for her is to be happy and you know that deep inside that you can be the one to make the rest of her life amazing. this girl doesnt need "wooing" she needs love real love. and i dont care what type of girl she is a romantic jesture is always on the books a single rose with a note a suprise date a personal message on a piece of jewellery something like that or just you telling her you only waant her in your life. :) hope this helps you gd luck
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reader, please help me +, writes (6 March 2011):
it sounds like you really do have feelings for her why else would you ask for help, the only reason why she says she thinks you are being fake is because she is too scared to let anyone back into her life , this girl has been through a lot it seems like you are doing things right and if she keeps telling you personal things it means that she wants you to know things that no one else she wants you to confort her, tell her exactally how you feel you want to be the only one in her life you want to be the wall she leans on all you want for her is to be happy and you know that deep inside that you can be the one to make the rest of her life amazing. this girl doesnt need "wooing" she needs love real love. i dont care what type of girl she is a romantic jesture is always on the books a singal rose with a note a suprise date a personal message or a piece of jewellery something like that or just you telling her you only waant her in your life. :) hope this helps you gd luck
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