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writes:Recently I’m 20 and I have been having feelings both emotional and sexual towards my mum's cousin's husband's brother’s son. We have always said we r cousins even though we are not related through blood. We have been close for about seven years. i Broke up with my ex last sept and he broke up with his not long after. Both were tough on us. But in these past few weeks when he has visited me I feel so weird and its scaring me as I feel it would be seen as wrong. What should I do? Plus I have had numerous dreams of having sex with him. Also I keep thinking about a relationship with him. It’s not purely sexual. When I first met him and didn't know his uncle was married to my mums cousin i really fancied him. Should I tell him how I feel or try forget about it? Please Help
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reader, ConfusedDazed +, writes (4 May 2009):
ConfusedDazed is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks everyone I really .I will let you know what happens in the next few weeks. You's have been lovely and helped me so much. xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2009): I don't think that it is wrong as you aren't blood related at all :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2009): Tell him how you feel. Nothing ventured, nothing gained. You're about as closely related to him as I am to Fiona Bruce. There's nothing wrong with it. Even if he was your first cousin there wouldn't be anything wrong with it - not in UK laws or morality anyway.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (3 May 2009):
 Are you related or aren't you? If there is no blood or legal tie getting in the way then there is nothing wrong. Kissing cousins is common enoug and with complex families a lot of people are cousins despite being far far removed.
Find out exactly what the blood/legal link between the two of you is, but if there isn't any, then go for it.
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reader, stevieee +, writes (3 May 2009):
 i think u shood go for it!okay maybe everyone will think its wrong becos uv always fot of each other as family but ur not conected by blood so i wouldnt matter at all if u have serious feelings for him!i think u should tell him how u feel and see if he feels the same!good luck hope u make the right descisionxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2009): Theres only one way your going to find out, and thats by telling him, the real problem here is how you go about it, a direct approach may not be the wisest of choices, you know him well enough by now, just speak to him and occasionly hint that you havent been out in ages and if he would like to join you. subtle but enough to get the ball going. you never know he may fancy the pants off you but doesnt know how to go about it. gd luck
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reader, ConfusedDazed +, writes (3 May 2009):
ConfusedDazed is verified as being by the original poster of the questionMy mum and dad don't see us as family. since my mums cousin and her husband split up.I never knew he exsisted til i was 14 and he was a few classes ahead of me. and i was introduced to him by a friend at the time and one night we found out that his dad's brother was married to my mums cousin. I still fancied him tho.I want to flirt with him so badly. but i'm scared too. we tell each other everythin we tlk about relationships,sex... you name it we can talk about it. And one night he was drunk and i was explaining a persoanl sexual action i enjoy and i heard him mutter i wish u cud do that to me. then when i asked what he said he said ahhh nothin. It has my head in a whizzzzzzz
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (3 May 2009):
I think you should go for it!
Your family may have brought you up as cousins but you are not. It's not like you shared a nursery together.
Flirt and see if he flirts back. If he does then suggest you go out for a drink together. Then flirt like hell and see what happens.
Remember not to have sex too soon!
Good Luck!! xx
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