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writes: Are there any good ways to get over someone? I just split up with the person i love and am devastated. I need some help,
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reader, lozz_1_6 +, writes (15 August 2006):
 time is a good healer, please just give it time, things will get easier, they can only get better cant they? i hope you feel better soon, its not easy getting over something like that, but life goes on
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reader, snowbird  +, writes (14 August 2006):
 One of the most difficult, and it does'nt get any easier with age, I'm afraid! I find it softens the blow if you just throw yourself into work, or an absorbing hobby or sport, or go to the gym to take your mind off of things. Get out there amongst friends. Or take a holiday.
Just don't go for a 're-bound' relationship - you will only find yourself comparing, and your poor new partner will of course be found to be wanting. Give it a rest for now.
Put all reminders away - after giving yourself time to 'grieve' your loss - it feels similar, as you are mourning the loss of a relationship, and the longer you were together, the deeper you feel it. Make sure you are ready to look at them, or you will find yourself in tears.
Try not to be tempted to contact her just yet, as it will be all the more of a wrench if she does not want contact.
If it is all amicable, you could text or e-mail her in a month or so, just to see if she is ok and let her know that even though you know it is over, you still think of her and will always remember her. This is the kindest thing to do, whoever is the one to have finished it. It will bring you both some 'closure' and help you both to heal. I wish you luck, it is so very hard to come to terms with, but IT WILL PASS... X (HUGS)
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