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writes: Need a quick answer please.i've got my mind on a girl, but i am too nervous to ask her out. She is an artist, so i have given her some work to do, hoping that i can ask her out when i pay her for the job. But when i do see her, i still can't do it when i see her cos of nerves. The thing is too, she knows all my family, and vice versa. It's torture! I'm afraid of the embarassment, rejection etc if she is not interested.I want to ask her out, but i just clam up. Help!!!
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reader, helpful girl  +, writes (15 August 2006):
 well if you dont ask you could lose your chance! its supriseing how quick you lose a chance in this life. but why dont you try getting her number or an idea when you pay her put a note in side saying i really like you want to go out one night? and quickly walk away before she counts her money and reads the note while your there. at the end of the day people get rjected all the time from different things e.g job interviews as well as asking some one out its not a bad thing. if you dont ask youll never know the answer.
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reader, beleiveitbabyx3 +, writes (15 August 2006):
 alright the first thing... You should try to hang out with her more often. Talk to her while she is doing her job. Make her laugh and ask her what she thinks of you two going out. If she sais she just wants to be friends be her friend. She can ONLY say yes or no...Just give it a chance. Most girls like it when you make her laugh.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2006): what kind of artist is she? you can study up on it and talk to her about that... get a conversation going, ask her out when things get going well. I am an artist myself so if you need any help coming up with things to talk about lemme know
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2006): Oka.. this may sound werid but how old are you and what general area do you live in? This sounds very similar to something that is happening to me... only i am on the other end of it, i'm a girl who really likes a guy they i get really nervous around... i know his family and he knows mine but i am afraid of rejection so i havn't made a move yet...
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reader, Charmedone +, writes (14 August 2006):
 all you have to do is find out what she is interested in. movies are a good way to break the ice between you go to see a comedy then you can talk about it afterwards just think as if she is a friend not a crush then it will be easier for you to talk to her in the future and once you feel comfartable talking to her take the plunge and ask her out. Hope it works out for you
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reader, dannyboy +, writes (14 August 2006):
ive been in a similar situation where the families know each otherand if theres a chance of it working the best thing is be honest with her. dont try anything flashy coz she will see right through it if she knows you, just be honest and lay whats in your head out in the open. the familiarity should make the whole thing easier and more comfortable and if she feels the same then its all good but in the eventuality she doesnt, she will appreciate the honesty and sincerity that you handled the situation with and appreciate that it couldnt have been easy to ask her. at the end of the day you have a lot more to gain than to lose by trying and if she wants it to happen it will otherwise theres nothing you can do about it and youll have no choice but to move on.
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