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anonymous
writes:ok this is really long but i need advice. so i have known this guy since i was in the 4th grade and he has like me since then but ive never shown him any attention. so in 11th grade he got a new look and i was really attracted to him so we started talking. but i found out he has a girlfriend so i backed off but not all the way it was something about him that made me wanna try. so he broke up with her and we started to talk more. we had our first kiss i made out wit him for the first time at his house and i was really serious about being with him. so prom rolls around and i find out he got back with her and he took her to prom i was really hurt so i stopped talkin to him for a month. so we start talking again and he broke up with her so last week i lost my virginity to him he was the only dude i would ever want to give such a big part of my life to. so i asked him if there was a relationship in the future. he said he wanted to be with me but he was back with his girlfriend now i feel stupid for even giving him something so major of my life to him. so now im wondering what should i do i really want a relationship with him he has apologized and even told me he loved me but i dont believe the love thing. but i just cant stop talking to him i just want him bad but i know he isnt good for me... what should i do??
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2011): Hey girl :) I don't think ur stupid for giving him that part of your life, I think he's stupid for taking that part and then giving nothing back. I know you like that guy, I've been there, being with a guy I know will hurt me and he did. So mi advice to you is just to ignore him. Stop talking, stop saying hey when ever you see him and it doesn't matter how often he apologizes, once a jerk, probably always a jerk. Of course I don't know him and if you don't take my advice (leaving him alone), be really careful.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2011): I suppose I should be completely supportive to you, and tell you it's not your fault, and he's a bad guy, etc. But I don't feel that way.
The truth is you were asking for this. This guy wouldn't have gotten to use your body if you had not been using it yourself. You were using it to try to entice him into a relationship (instead of getting him interested the harder conventional ways) and your plan backfired.
You made a mistake that many, maybe most, girls your age make at one time or another. Don't feel too bad about it. But don't feel too good about it either - wise up and learn the lesson here. Sex won't buy commitment.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2011): I say you do 3 things...
1) tell is girlfriend what a dirty lowlife he is.
2) Erase his number, avoid him completly (go cold turkey.
3) Learn from this!
Men (or in this case boys) will say and do absolutly anything when it comes to getting what they want, especially in that department.
You were silly to give him such a precious thing when you wernt even sure he would commit to you.
Next time save yourself until you know the boy is worthy.
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