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I need a way to get him to meet my desires

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Question - (19 September 2016) 4 Answers - (Newest, 25 September 2016)
A female United States age 36-40, anonymous writes:

My boyfriend and I are busy people. He works 6 days out of the week,8 hours per day. I'm in school part time and works 40 hours a week. Therefore, when we are together, I want to cuddle and have sex. He just enjoys my company. I talked to him about my needs and he doesn't understand. He thinks we have a good sex life. He says he'll quit his job just to cuddle me all day long. That's NOT what I'm asking. Even for 15 minutes will make me content. He doesn't want to break up. I just don't see the point of being in a relationship with no affection/intimacy. Am I wrong or is there a chance for us?

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A male reader, Mrgohard247 United States +, writes (25 September 2016):

Most guys would kill for a gf like you who wants sex regularly or every day...myself included. I would def talk to him and decide if it's just you both aren't compatible or if something else is going on. Everyone has different levels of needs and they should be met. Don't spend the next ever how many years miserable not having them met....I say this from experience

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A female reader, Amycoffeegirl United States +, writes (20 September 2016):

I do not think you are wrong for feeling that you need more from your bf.

Please talk with him and let him know what you are thinking, that your care a great deal for him, and that you just would like more physical contact with him.

Perhaps he would be open to you taking more of a lead with sex sometimes to make it easier for him.

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A female reader, Andie's Thoughts United Kingdom +, writes (19 September 2016):

Andie's Thoughts agony auntYou need to find a balance between cuddling/sex and actually spending time together without sex. It's a good thing to have a partner who isn't always after sex when you're together.

You need to tell him what you need, but you also need to ask him what he'd like too.

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A female reader, aunt honesty Ireland +, writes (19 September 2016):

aunt honesty agony auntNo your not wrong, if you are not feeling that there is enough affection then you are not getting what you need from this relationship. It sounds like your boyfriend is comfortable with your sex life at the moment, but you are not. I can understand that maybe he is coming home tired from working all week with only one day off. Try and make more off an effort between you both, you don't want to break up so ask him to try harder.

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