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writes:i have been with my boyfriend for nearly 3 years we were sooo good until i stupidly ended it just before Christmas, we got back together in feb but found it hard as i struggled with trust, he finished me then because i was always on at him he has told me that a have a slight chance of getting him back if i overcome this trust but he wants to have some space for a week or two and im finding it sooo hard to cope without him not seeing him or talking to him is soo hard i dont no what to do :(
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reader, Odds  +, writes (5 July 2010):
 You've done some pretty serious damage to his trust. Getting back together works sometimes, but not the majority of the time, and he knows it.
How can you guarantee that if he gets back with you, you won't just dump him again? Your word will not be enough anymore; you need some kind of proof or guarantee. What that could be, I don't know. Without it, your odds are pretty low.
He probably suspects that you dumped him in order to have a guilt-free Christmas fling with some other guy, but won't say so unless he finds evidence.
As to why you didn't trust him... well, it's tough to tell from your post. He's hurt that you would still not trust him after three years, and suddenly dump him. Did you have a good reason not to trust him? If so, move on.
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (5 July 2010):
 He asked you for space for a week or two. Give him the time away from you he requested, first.
Then in another two or three weeks, contact him and see if you can have a frank talk with him......
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2010): Sorry to hear about this, this is not easy but things will get better over time.
What you should do is make some (temporary) closure from him until you overcome this/decide what you want to do. During this period, this can be considered as an opportunity to discover who you are without him.
It will be hard at the beginning so make sure that you've got your friends close by.
Message me if you have any other questions
Good luck
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