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anonymous
writes:Hi.I met a girl online through a gaming instant messenger. At first it was just like talking to anyone else but actually spoke about stuff and our conversations were long. She gave me her MSN addy and for more than a month we've spoken almost everyday for several hours (a few times up to 9 hours).She showed me a social networking profile of hers and with her email addy (which she claims its mostly real life friends on) I found her on another social networking site and alot of what she says checks out, we also text each other on cellphone alot.She lives in transitable distance (2 hrs) from me. I know I am young, barely 20 years old and she is my age but i dont date because i dont believe in short term stuff and dont like current attitudes of people my age, well she has very similar views as me when it comes to that,so in a situation like this dating is possible. She also isnt an "easy" if you know what i mean and I like that, it shows class that i believe society largely doesnt have anymore.IF it were to escalate to a relationship i dont know if that would be long distance but i am willing to relocate, it happens to come at a strange time because ive been planning to move for awhile now.Is there anything i should be cautious about? ive never met anyone from online like this before.
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reader, betty_black  +, writes (25 June 2009):
 Just be sure to meet in a public place and thats all ill advice you. I have met a few people from the internet before and as Lilly Rose has said, be prepared for her not being exactly as you thought. Personality wise, some people i have talked for hours online with and met them and found them not to talk all that much, and some people have been just what i was expecting personality wise but very photogenic!! So just take the situation as it is, dont overthink it.
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reader, Lilly Rose +, writes (25 June 2009):
 Be prepared for the fact that you might meet and shes like nothing she is online....maybe you wont fancy her or her personality is not great....ive met people off net who were great chatting online msn etc but then i met them and they had nooo social skills and they put there bestest photo up which hardly looked like them! Just meet not putting to much pressure on....maybe just as friends as first!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2009): Well done you for all the time you have put into this. Maybe a step nearer to meeting this girl would be to talk on the phone, but check first that this is ok. Then you could suggest meeting up for a coffee or something, ask her how she feels about meeting. If she says yes, make it somewhere public, maybe of her choosing, so that she feels safe. Don't think relationship yet, think wonder what she is like in real life, and take it step by step. Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2009): I don't see anything wrong in meeting up, as you are both consenting adults, but even so make the first time you meet at a public place. Don't think about moving to her or saying this to her yet, it will probably scare her off. If you meet up just enjoy her company and see where it goes.
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