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writes:I have been back from a holiday in Greece for a week. While I was there me and my friend got to know a local guy really well. He spoke perfect english and worked in a restaurant and a supermarket which we visited reguarly. He was older than we were and married with a kid - there was nothing more than friendship. However, his friend who worked at the same restaurant is younger and HOT! He always smiled at me and kissed me hello and goodbye but I didnt think anything would come of it because his english was not so good. Anyway on the last night we went for a drink with them and I ended up kissing the hot guy in a club, we went for a drive and ended up on the beach at 5am on the morning I had to fly back to England. He was holding my hand and kissing me. I'm 20 and I know i'm young but im not ridiculous - i realise things happen on holiday and tried not to think too much about it when I got home. His friend (the guy got to know well) had my number as we swapped contact details and has obviously passed it on to the guy i kissed- he text me in greek saying he misses me and he cant stop thinking about me. He wants me to go back over and meet up. To be honest I'm suprised he remembers me after a week +. He claims he has feelings for me and of course I would love to see him again but I dont know what I should believe. Any advice?? Thanks!!! x
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2008): PS: Me and my friend went on holiday to the same place three times in a row, and all the friends we met remembered us and were pleased to see us and it seemed we had never gone... Just something to think about... But think about friendships and holiday's, the romance thing is hard.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOk thanks everyone- i am going to have a long hard think about this one! xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2008): As I said babes, holiday romances are nice, and you can really meet some interesting and kind men. But if you go back, (I have no problem with that) remember your on holiday and you've just gone to see a friend. Long distance relationships are hard and his feelings may have changed. But what the hell, if you've got the money and you remember all of this, go on holiday and spend time getting to know your new FRIEND.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2008): sorry! lol i just got a bit confused with the reply thing, because it shows my most recent answer before anyone elses, so it looked like you were retorting to me. Yikes sorry
anyway GENUINE best wishes for if you go back for more holiday fun!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI'm not defending him! Im saying that I wouldnt go far enough to get him a visa.. doesnt that mean marriage?!
And dont worry there are no "first crushes" about here, i am just trying to get some honest advice without people jumping to conclusions!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2008): OOh i wound someone up, i apologize. Don't you think you've fallen a bit to heavy to fast? and so has he? Maybe this is his first crush, if not yours aswell. Or you just came out of a mucked up relationship
anwyays
since you seem so sure and are defending him, why don't you just go ahead and do something about it.
XxXx
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI meant Lierin misunderstood not you - she wrote that he was married. Thanks for your thoughts - im glad you're being honest - i understand about the visa thing - unlucky for him there's no way i was considering marriage or anything, if that is his intention! xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2008): I didn't misunderstand i read he's single, i just meant that he's probably texted other girls like you if he's trying to get out of the country- but maybe he is genuinely attracted. He's interested because he's texting, whether it's because of your sparkling personality or visa is another matter. But anyway how realistically could you continue your relationship.
Sorry for being harsh
XxXx
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhey talkinghelps thanks for your answer - no he doesnt have a great job but he works about 16 hours a day - in the daytime in construction and at night in a restaurant - but if he is in the EU anyway would he even need a visa for england??
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSorry i think you misunderstood he is single! His friend is married, that was just part of the back ground! But no, he's definitely free and single! Although this is what I thought about all the girls he will see.. he's not openly flirty.. as he seemed to be quite shy, and so i wonder why bother texting me if he's not interested?? Saying this I understand what the first 2 answers are saying that feelings may change so i should be weary
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2008): To be honest, Greeks and Turkish are quick to be passionate and admit love when they find out your English. I think you should realise that you could meet someone who you know better and if you decide to go back on holiday to the same place, don't if the reason is just to see him. Everyone 'moves fast' on holiday but think about him in relation to if you met him where you live. He could be after a visa, i mean he doesn't seem to have a great job. But that's the cynic in me.
Anyways focus on your future , wherever it may lie.
XxXx
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reader, LIERIN  +, writes (25 July 2008):
 Hehe ... My boyfriend is Greek ... and he was reading this .. he said
If a Greek man is married with children...there is nothing else than sex that he wants from another woman. Its unexceptable for a greek man in Greece to have another woman, because he would be thrown out of the family. Even if he has just a friendship with his wife. She is his wife and he will stay with her. You can do whatever you want to .. you will not get thorugh this ... leave him alone!
Next time you go there .. he wont even know you. He sees milion of girls every year coming in and out of the country ... he probably flirts with 99% of them, because "he can" ... do you really want to spend any time with someone like him?????
Get someone thats free!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2008): I remember one time me and my friend met two Spanish brothers on holiday, they were great and treated us really nice. When we got back home they wrote to us and we wrote to them, but the language barrier was too hard, so that was the end of that.
Another time we met a Greek guy who owned a bar. Again, him and his friends were really great, they took us all over the place, payed for drinks and food, even gave contacted their friends in Athens, so that when we went on a trip, we already had built in friends to take us out. We were treated wonderfully, but this guy had met a beautiful girl the year before. He had told her to visit and she did. He spent so much time with us, he didn't really have time to treat her right. She hated us so much, she even carried our suitcases on to the coach to make sure we left and went home. He was a really nice guy. He liked her the year before, but by the time she visited, his love had disappeared.
I would be very carefull about getting involved with a man from another country. I myself have had a holiday romance and after 18months we are still good friends. If I ever visit him again, I will make sure I have enough money to look after myself, and I don't expect anything to happen but friendship. Be carefull. Holiday romances are nice, but in the cold light of day, emotions and feelings can fade away.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (25 July 2008):
Well if you can afford to fly out and spend another week there then perhaps it is worth the risk.
What does your gut tell you? Is he after sex? Is he after a passport? Is he texting lots of other girls who come to his restaurant?
I think you are right to be suspicious but if he was insincere then he could have moved on and found some other tourist girl.
Go for it but go in with a mind open to the fact he may not have the best intentions
Good Luck!! xx
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