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writes: im sammy aged 14 going on 15 and me and y boyfriend not yet sexually active but we go do sexy things. have given him a hand job and we have done things with clothes on but i darednt go all the way because i dont want him to see me naked. i am not very confident and i dont have a nice body. i am a bit embarrassed and when he touches me i get all paranoid does any one get this or is it just me whats wrong with me can any one help xox
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reader, Mother hen +, writes (5 June 2006):
I agree with the other 2 answers. Please wait until it feels WONDERFUL, and it will. I am talking about a few years. Explore other areas, have fun and enjoy activites with friends. you have your whole life to explore sexual experiences, you will find them much more pleasant in the future, when your body will know how to respond to a loving touch. its natural, dont rush it, there's more to life. Good luck
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx  +, writes (4 June 2006):
 Well I must start with what everyone who reads this will be thinking . . . you are very young to be worrying about all this kinda stuff. You've got your whole life to do all that so chill out and wait a while, I promise it will be worth the wait.
I know, no matter how many people say this to you, or other people your age, you rarely listen so here's some advice on the matter you asked about:
When you are mature enough and comfortable enough with the person you are about to get intimate with, everything will just happen. You don't have to worry about silly little things like that, if it's in the right circumstances, it'll be perfect anyway. If you're with someone you completely love and trust, you would be happy enough to take your clothes off for them anytime. Maybe you're just a bit young right now, I wouldn't get naked in front of anyone at your age!!!
Trust me, give it some time. When the time and situation and guy is right, you will feel great about it and it will be fine. The great thing about being in love with the right person is they make you feel a million dollars, even if you feel like rubbish!! Please honey, wait until it's right. This is your body and mind telling you this is not the right thing to do so young. Good luck
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (4 June 2006):
 Call me an old lady but at 14 you shouldn't be worrying about being sexually active too much. Most ladies don't like something about their bodies, but you saying you don't want him seeing you naked is really saying you are not ready for a sexual relationship. That is perfectly normal and ok!!! If he is putting on pressure to have sex then he is not really a nice guy. I realise there is enormous pressure on teens to have 'done it', but it is really much nicer to wait until you are older and have sex when you are emotionally and physically mature enough to enjoy it. Teenage boys are rarely good at sex, or knowledgable about how to please ladies in the bedroom, and they usually can't last very long so you are probably not missing out on much! As you will notice if you read this board, there are lots of young girls fretting about contraception, pregnancy and STD scares so having sex does have a down side too!
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