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writes:I'm so distraught about this at the moment.I have loved a boy for about 2 maybe 3 years now and he has had such a massive impact on my life he has loved me too but we have never gone out or anythingSo i gave up hope of that ever happening and stated seeing another lad that i have grown to like so much more than i ever imagined i couldBut now the first boy has said that he really is still in love with me and that it is so much deeper than anything my boyfriend could feel because he was incapable of itI love them both so much everyday i change my mind about which one i want, i don't want to hurt either but obviously one of them has to be or bothI don't feel like i have anyone to talk to about this because all my friends are so biased and don't consider how i actually feelI know that no one here can really make my decision for me but i can't stress how much i don't want to hurt either and if anyone has any advice on how to help?Or if someone could talk to me not across this then that would be great because there's a little more to the story that is stressing me out pleaseThanks xo(P.S Sorry it is long)
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reader, cuck counselor  +, writes (28 August 2008):
lucky you.at your age don't make any firm commitments to anyone.enjoy life and enjoy them both
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2008): With all due respect to the previous advisors, since when did love have to be an either/or proposition for everyone?
There are some people who are simply happier loving more than one person. Such a state is called 'polyamory'. This is a highly ethical and socially progressive way of thinking and being. Please feel free to do some research on the topic before making any culturally-bound kneejerk decisions. Best wishes...
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reader, PsyCookie  +, writes (22 August 2008):
 Take a deep breath. Inhale. Exhale.
What you have to do is take some time for yourself to clear your head. You're so very troubled and probably both of these guys are putting pressure on you.
So take a day off and go to a place where you know you will be relaxed. Bring no-one but yourself. Maybe music that will relax you. I recommend a spa, or a long walk on the park.
During that time, think about your feelings for both of the guys. Analyze your heart. Some recommended questions you could ask yourself: "Who do I see myself in the future?" "Who do I love more?" "Who truely loves me?" "Who will bring me my needs?" "Who am I happiest with?" And more.
Don't be too hasty on your decisions. Like cupidguy said, you seem to be relying more on your heart than on your head and this is just bringing too much trouble. So before you do something, think on the consequences or the benefits.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2008): Why not try it out with both? A threesome can be a wonderful experience. And, feel free to be with each of them separately. If they both love you, they may surprise you with what they are willing to do for you.
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