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branhquy
writes: I began to fall in love with my civics teacher six months ago( now im in college). He's not handsome but really nice. Im actracted by his personality. He's a caring person. I remember one time he cried because one student died for car accident. there are so many other things that make me fall in love with him. At first, when he knew my feeling, he started to avoid me. I thought he hated me at first. But then later, he changed his behavior. I mean that he still keeps a distance btw us, but he started treating me like other students. On the last days of senior year, i felt really sad when thinking i might not see him any more. On those days, his behavior also changed, sometimes i caught him watching me, he cared me more but then when i looked back him, he turned away. Before the day i graduated one day, i came to his classroom- i cannot control my feeling. When only my teacher and i was there, we talked to each other alot, i will never forghet those moments, and then, an economics teacher came in his classroom, they are well known as close friends in my highschool. I didn't think that econ teacher knew anything when seeing me in his classroom. A day after which was the day i graduated, i found out that that econ teacher knew something about me, i mean i can say that he knows im in love with my teacher. On that day, i felt really bad. Do you guys understand my feeling? I always keep wondering why my civics teacher tell that guy. Do both of them think that im a stupid and crazy girl, my love is just blind??? OR he told the econ teacher that he also had a feeling for me( i hope it is true)there weeks ago, I sent him an email. I told him tthat i really wanted to see him, but i didnot have enough courage to do so. And i wrote that i hoped i could be your sister( i know that no ways for us, i wrote that because i don't want him avoids me) Am i doing a rite thing? he never sent me back anything. i wonder why he doesn't send me an email that tells me stop bothering him or accept me as his sister. I hate his silence that is killing Should i come back to his to see him? i miss him badly.Thank you very much for listening to my crazy love
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2008): Hey hun I can relate. Last year in 9th grade (I'm in 10th grade now) I had an English teacher and I fell head over heels in love with him. He is 23 years older than me but I didn't care. He favored me over the other students and he knew I liked him. I made a big mistake though...for Valentines Day I got him a gift, that became the talk of the school and some teachers started looking at me funny. Especially the teachers he talked to. When I see certain teachers around on campus they smirk at me or give me somewhat hateful looks. I made an enemy too, this one teacher that had a crush on him, (I'm guessing she had feelings for him cuz she was always trying to flirt with him) she HATES me now...she gives me the dirtiest looks but I give her dirty looks right back. It sucks cuz now when I see him he wont look at me or talk to me. I don't get it, he still gives me butterflies and I can't make that feeling go away.
I have his phone number and his email, but I don't have the guts to call or send him an email. This is the worst feeling in the world, I'am trying to get over him, but it's just so hard. And seeing him everyday at school doesn't help.
Hun that's your decision weather or not you wanna go see him. At least you made the effort to talk to him, since you emailed him. I know how you feel, it's hard to describe the feeling. I wish you luck and all the happiness in the world.
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reader, xxsecretsxx +, writes (7 October 2008):
 Ex teacher or not he can get into serious trouble if he was to reply or have any type of illicit relationship with you. A reputaion alone can ruin a teachers career because of the parents who are active in the school.
If your teacher does in fact have feelings for you it is unlikely that he with tell you because of the chance that he could lose not only his job but his friends and respect that he earned through the years.
i believe that asking him to be a brother figure might also hurt you in the long run. Perhaps you should move on and try to find a man that is more able to return his feelings of love.
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reader, sappygirl +, writes (4 October 2008):
 Honestly, there are some people in life we fall head over heals for but in reality we will never be with. This is just a fact of life and something you have to learn to accept. He was your civics teacher, so he is off limits to you. What you are feeling is not love, but lust, infatuation and deep admiration for this man.
However, he can lose his job and credibility if he pursues this any futher. That is why he did not repond to your email. You want to hear from him, but he is doing the right thing in keeping his distance from you. He needs his job, and it is not worth losing it over a girl who has a huge crush on him.
Now that you are in college, you have to do everything you can to get over him. Meet new people, date, create new experience. Time will heal, and soon you will meet someone wonderful and you'll eventually forget your teacher.
Just hold him special in your heart, appreciate the great qualities he has, and one day you will find another person who has those same qualities. He is not the one for you, and it's best if you leave him alone.
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