A
female
age
51-59,
*ofinuim
writes:HiCan someone please give me some advice. I was in hospital a few months ago due to a breakdown from extreme stress, since then my partner has treated me differently. Before I had this breakdown my partner treated me as his equal and respected me for the things that I have achieved in my life and the difficulties I have overcome. I felt loved by him.Since my breakdown he treats me like a child each and every day asking me if I have eaten, what I've eaten, am I warm enough, have i put on a jacket when I'm going out (even when its a beautiful day), have I taken my medication, asks my advice then totally ignores it or tells me that I'm wrong etc. etc.I have had the kind of life which has given me great strength and before I had my breakdown he admired that in me. I have tried telling him that I am still the same person he fell for and that I am not enjoying being treated in this way. I have lied to myself and made excuses for some of his behaviour e.g. he must be feeling cold himself to be asking me to wear a jacket when its warm. But it is really starting to get to me, as I feel he is diminishing my strength and ignoring my strengths.To be honest I am starting to feel like meeting someone else, who will give me the respect that I deserve. I do love my partner but I cannot handle his new behaviour towards me and speaking to him doesnt work as it makes him defensive, arguing him does the same. I love him but this is driving me away from him. Please help, thanks
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reader, sofinuim +, writes (14 September 2015):
sofinuim is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you Denizen, yes I suppose you are right, I think it took a lot out of my partner when I got so ill and he is trying to somehow ensure that I don't get so ill again. Thanks again
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reader, Denizen  +, writes (14 September 2015):
 I'm sorry to hear you suffered a breakdown, but it's good to know you are feeling like your old self.
You have to be aware how much family are affected when someone gets so ill like you have. People around you had a lot to deal with no doubt.
From what you say he is being caring, perhaps a little more than you need, but nevertheless caring.
Just stay relaxed and things will shift back to normal I'm sure.
You can't expunge the past. Finding someone new is just running away from yourself.
Part of the getting well process is admitting that you are ill. Part of the recovery is accepting that you have been ill. BUT you survived, didn't you!
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