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writes: I have been married for two years now and this is my second marriage.. I am trying to learn from mistakes from the first one. For example. My first husband and I did nothing together even when we were at home alone we were in seperate rooms and did our own things barely talking.. Now I have a husband I love and want to be with so here is my question. I don't see him all day until about 6:00 at night but he acts like if I want to be with him I am taking up all his time and he can't do anything else but be with me. Well the other things he does is go on the computer and talk to people on there . I am just upset becuase it seems like I can't win no matter what I do.. I just want to know what advice anyone has Reply to this Question
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reader, Angzw  +, writes (29 January 2010):
A relationship has to be balanced. You can't ignore each other all the time. Similarly, you can't be in each other's face all the time neither. Maybe he feels you smother him and don't give him his space. So develop your own interests; meet the girls for a coffee or whatever. Then have a date night or date day once a week where you spend time together as a couple. All the best
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2010): You cannot live any relationship as a repsonse to another one. He sounds like he needs some space. How about you leave him alone for some time and be receptive to him when he comes to find you? Or talk to him and make sure that you both have some time for each other. If you were coming home at 6pm from work you'd not want to see another human being for some time. One wants to unwind, perhaps by mindlessly watching tv or surf the net.
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reader, boo22  +, writes (29 January 2010):
 You need to find a happy medium.
You can still do your own thing and be a close partnership.
I presume your husband works all day and then from six he's feeling he has to spend his time with you.
It's not fair on him,he needs some down time to just be.
He's warning you that if you don't find something else to occupy your time once or twice a week, he will start to resent you.
Maybe he's taking you a little for granted. Give him time to miss you
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