A
female
age
18-21,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend (Simon) and I have been dating for 6 months, I met him on the a chat site, he's a little older than me, I have always disliked marriage and when he started to talk about it a few months back I went for counselling it changed my views a little. After a few days I met my ex boyfriend (Ian), he's a little closer to my age and he says he really loved me, I liked him too and only broke up over marriage issues, he used to work in the same office as me.After we broke up my friends who were also his friends drifted apart, something I'm still sad about. I still want that friendship with them and think if I had a relationship with Ian I could win my friends back and after meeting him that day I sort of started a relationship with my Ian, I didn't tell him I already am dating another guy and it has been a few months. Simon has found out about my ex boyfriend and I's realtionship and he got sad about it, told me not to do it, I told him that I won't, now I'm torn between two guys, I like them both and they both love me very much too. Sometimes I tell Simon that I don't want to be with him, he gets sad and we don't break up, I never tell Ian that I don't want to be with him, I trust Ian more cos he worked in my office and I met Simon on the net but sometimes I think that Simon loved me more cos when I asked to break up he didn't get nasty, while my previous break up with Ian was nasty, when I asked to break up, he said real rude things, now Simon wants to get married and I really don't know if he's the one. Help! What should I do ?
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reader, Annalisa + ♥, writes (19 February 2008):
 You need to be honest with Ian and with yourself.
If you have strong feelings for Ian, Simon is not 'the one'
but do you really love Ian?
You need to figure out whether you're just scared of commitment. As for the friends you lost, a good friend sticks by your side through thick and thin. You can't get back exactly what you had before. If you want the friends, look for them indipendently of your ex boyfriend!
It might do you good to take a holiday with a girl pal or female relative, to get away from both men for a while.
Your heart will miss the one you truely love.
God bless you and good luck!
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