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writes:I need help... I'm in love with my best friend, but she has a boyfriend. I love this girl more than life, but I don't know how to tell her. I don't know if I should tell her face-to-face, or keep telling her in letters. I keep trying to tell her but I can't bring myself to do it... What should I do?
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reader, seanjn +, writes (7 December 2008):
i had a friend for 2 years and loved her for about 1 1/2 but shes was and still is in a long distance realtionship. My girlfreind broke up with me becase she caught wind of the crush a year ago but that did not quell it.3 weeks ago i told her that i wanted more than our friendship, i didnt tell her i loved her because i thought that would be to much. still she started crying saying how important our freindship was and how her life would no be the same withou me, ultmetly though i was rejected. the next day she texted me saying she wanted to talk more, that she didnt want it to end like this. i thought it was a bad idea, but eventually gave in. So i go over there she opens the door and i kissed her, the best part was that she kissed back and it was a indiscribale, two years of bottled up love and effction, as lame as this sounds i never wanted it to end.but it did. i told her that this was the only way i could be with her, that anything less hurt to much. but again, and somewhat more begrugenly on her part i was rejected. I was incredibly depressed after this second rejection, still am. I am avoiding her ceaselessly despite her efforts to contact me, it kills i miss her every 30 seconds, but it has to be done me. I dont expect to feel to good or love someone else for quite a while but it will happen.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2008): Dude if you know she has a boyfriend back off an least you want a rival. She's taken and it wont be fair to bf.
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reader, Teacake +, writes (22 November 2008):
 You are both very young and even though this seems like the most life changing crisis of all time.... it is because you are still changing and have not yet matured enough to realize everything for the rest of your life doesn't depend on this girl.
With that said, because she is so very young, this boy will be out of her life soon enough... just not soon enough for you. The lesson which is difficult, is to learn patience! When they break up, you will be there for her and that's when you tell her what she means to you. Until then, its hard to wait, but realistically, this is not her soul mate! He is bound to cheat on her one day. Or, they both get bored.
When emotions are all over the place everything seems like it has to be done today as if tomorrow will never come. Remain her friend, don't say anything. When its over then let her know how you feel. or, you can kid around and in a joking way let her know you are waiting for them to break up.
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