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writes:Hey, im fifteen and my dad got married to on of my best friends mom.I used to date him when i was younger and we lost our connection.His mom and siblings moved in for a year but moved out because things werent working.My dad and her are still dating.So heres the thing im in love with her son and always have been.He said that even if we waited till senior year and the parents werent dating that our familys wouldnt approve.Idk what to do because i love him alot and even though im only 15 im pretty sure its love.What do i do?
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reader, Jix  +, writes (17 July 2010):
 I don't see why they shouldn't approve, you are not blood related. If you are really serious about it, perhaps you should mention it to your father?
Its awkward, because if you and the guy were to date and breakup, it would cause a strain on the family because he would still be your step-brother. Not only that, but if your father and his mother broke up, it would be awkward for them if you two were seeing each other.
Even though you may like him a lot, it sounds like he is not willing to take the risks involved to date you.
I would talk to your friend again and tell him you are willing to accept the risks, and perhaps you could plan out what you would do if say your parents broke up, or if you guys broke up but your parents were still together.
Then, if both of you are willing to accept the risks, you should tell your parents about it.
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reader, janniepeg +, writes (17 July 2010):
 I don't doubt your love is real, but love feels different and mean different things when you are 20, 25, 35, or 55. If you are worried about the legal stuff, the law only cares about blood relatives. You may not live with this family forever. You can move out once you are an adult. Marrying a stepbrother may cause awkwardness in the family, but it has worked for a few people. Your dad happens to love this woman, and you happen to love this boy. Find out a way to work this out so you don't jeopardize either relationships. Your dad might actually try hard to break you up. Because you are so close together you may be tempted to do something physical. Getting caught is a sure way to end that relationship forever. If you really love him and he really loves you you can wait that 3 years.
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