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writes:Hi, I'm 20 and my boyfriend and I have been together a little over a year. i love him to death but there are times when he just makes me feel worthless. I was always taught not to settle but I am afraid I may be because I don't have great self esteem so i feel it is a blessing to have him. But my real question lies with the way he acts. He says showing emotions is a weakness so he never tells me how he feels or really shares his emotions with me which leads me to believe he doesn't feel as strongly for me as I do for him. So I guess this question is for anyone who feels showing emotions is a weakness. So my question is, is the fact that he hates to tell me his emotions mean he most likely doesn't feel as much for me as i do him?
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (5 August 2007):
 If he truly has trouble showing his emotions, then you can't take that to mean he doesn't feel as much for you as you feel for him. It could simply be that you can show what you feel and he can't.
However, I'm a bit concerned about something else. Dear, don't settle. You were taught right. I don't mean you should dump your boyfriend because he doesn't show emotions, but, don't ever settle. Every person is valuable and deserves respect. Having him may be a blessing (I wouldn't know), but, that doesn't mean you would need to put up with anything. It's a blessing when someone makes you feel fullfilled.
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