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writes:My boyfriend was just sitting at home one night. He was texting his friend and asked him to send him a picture of a naked girl that he had already glanced at because his friend was talking to her. He sent it to him and he saved it to his phone! My boyfriend doesn't understand why I am so furious.! He says it's nothing, but you know girls, it's definitely more than nothing to us!I told him, I know it's normal or whatever for guys to look at porn, even though I hate that too, (I think I should be quite enough since he says he loves me and he only wants me and to be with me) but I told him it was the fact that he asked for it from his friend and saved it on his phone!what to do..
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reader, Plexi  +, writes (10 December 2008):
 It almost sounds like he's acting like a little child and trying to test his boundaries with you to see how far you'll let hi go. I think he's acting very immature and needs to grow up. I f he loved you and you were the only object of his attention he wouldn't have time for other girls. You can forgive a man's wondering eye as long as he is a great guy who treats you right and that is his only mistake. But sleeping with other women is not acceptable. That is NOT how you test how much you love and really want to be with someone. I say distance yourself from him, give him the cold shoulder and uninterested and like you just don't care. Make him worry, make hi wonder, I'm not even sure if he's worth all this effort. Be careful hun, once you lose trust the love is never the same:(
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reader, gym_bibi +, writes (10 December 2008):
gym_bibi is verified as being by the original poster of the questionok. the only thing is that everything is happening in a row. a week before this he cheated on me. only one time. but it still hurts. is this just something hes going through? I dont know. he says that helped him reasure he only wanted to be with me and stuff, but then he goes and does the other thing..he says i can trust him.
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reader, Nadera46 +, writes (9 December 2008):
I concur with Bugs. Give him a taste of his own medicine. Oh certainly, us women do not see it as eye candy, perhaps it's that way traditionally. Sometimes we have to start a revolution. I can recall me boyfriend shouting out at the girls on television -- the ones he claimed as "bootiful", and although I'm stacked with my own assets...I didn't appreciate that shit. Instead of bitchin' a fit, I let time pass by and began to have a thing for the NFL (his favorite sport) and oh boy! I had a field day. I rubbed it in, "Oh he is so fine! Oh look at his quads and biceps! Oh he is a freak of nature, imagine what equipment he has! Yes honey, I loved it, and he hated it. Later, I asked him how it felt. I didn't need to ask, he had the most grimaced look on his face. Consequently, he stopped looking at his porn and he stopped shouting at the women on TV in my presence. He's got to respect me...bottom line and vice-versa.
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reader, SinVA +, writes (9 December 2008):
I think this one is a little different...
Looking at porn is one thing, but this is a girl he knows/kinda knows. saving this on his phone and looking at it means he is physically attracted to her, and if she is just some girl him/his friend knows, odds are she isn't amazingly attractive or whatever.
So this is different in the sense that this is a person who could disrupt the relationship. Him looking at a pornstar is VERY different than having a picture of a classmate or something saved on his phone. I would bring this up to him, and explain the difference, because many people have pornstar pictures/videos up, or photos of models, but this is one girl he knows, clearly he thinks she is attractive and although it is semi-innocent now it might escalate.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2008): you have asked what to do.So Herte's what I suggest.Let a few weeks pass by.Don't fight with him about this.Look into his eyes and say,"I understand completely.I am sorry I didn't understand guys first".
Get a few nude pictures of men with unbelievable and huge monstrous packages.Store it in your mobile.When he comes into the room,act as if you are hiding the mobile phone.The hiding part is very important.Do it for a quite a few number of times.Next time leave the phone in a place he can find it.
Post us about the reaction.Will definitely get back to you based on it.
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reader, Plexi +, writes (9 December 2008):
I understand exactly how you feel but they(men) are different then us. Men are VERY visual and like looking at naked women because it's eye candy for them. it really is nothing, he's only looking not touching! they look at porn like we look at wedding dresses online,LOL Give hi a break with this one, Imagine you were both 6 and he had pictures of Jessica Rabitt, its silly right? it's kinda the same trust me, not a big deal but i do understand how you feel, i felt the same when i was your age:)
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