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I love him, but hes not affectionate to me, others say he slags me off, I dont know what to believe!?

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Question - (30 September 2006) 4 Answers - (Newest, 7 January 2008)
A female , *eeh_06 writes:

I have been going out with this boy for around 2 weeks now.I really love him. Before we were going out, we got on so well. Now, he hardly talks to me, unless I'm on my own. He's only hugged me 3 times and never kissed me. I really don't know what his feelings are. If I talk to him, will it make him scared and dump me?

One of my male friends have told me (who also fancies me) that he slags me off a lot. I don't know who to believe! Please help

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2008):

You should relax and give him some space, especially if you've only been dating for two weeks. I dont think you really understand what love is yet. If he really cares enough for you he will come to you, and if not then its his loss and its time to find a better person that will make you happy. You should not have to be afraid to talk to him. I cant really give you an explination as to why he's not affectionate because everyone is different. That could be just how he is, or maybe he's not ready.

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A female reader, Meeh_06 +, writes (1 October 2006):

Meeh_06 is verified as being by the original poster of the question

Meeh_06 agony auntThank you for your replies! I haven't seen him since last night, but he was calling me names ALL night. I'm going to have a chat with him later this afternoon and see where we go from there. thank you again, it was very helpful.

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A female reader, Toria +, writes (30 September 2006):

Toria agony auntFirstly don't believe everything your told, your friend has his own reasons for not wanting you to be with your new boyfriend and although he maybe telling the truth he may also be wanting to cause doubt therefore causing a break up hoping you may then start to notice him the way he wants you too.

The only way you'll know the truth is to talk to your boyfriend, you shouldn't fear him breaking up with you because of this as if he wanted to be with you he would want you to go to him with a problem and help to sort it out together, although this relationship has only been 2 weeks and he may just be unsure of the amount of affection to show to not scare you off.

Good luck :o)

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A female reader, kellyO United Kingdom +, writes (30 September 2006):

kellyO agony auntHi Meeh,

There are alot of people who dont really believe in public display of affections. Perhaps he is one. Alot of people during the initial stage of "wooing" will try to please but once the relationship starts there can be changes but that shouldnt affect the way u feel about each other if these are just ordinarry changes.

I dont think u take what this other male friend of your said seriously since he might be after his own best interest.

What i suggest is to talk to him and ask him why. It doesnt have to be an argument that will lead to a confrontation or break up.Just a simple and loving chat.

Take care dear and all the best.

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