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writes:okay so this is a little rubbish for me, im in a healthy happy relationship, i love him with all my heart and he loves me, weve had our problems but were stronger than ever....but, theres another boy who recently confessed he likes me. im not one to just drop someone im crazy about but ive always had thoughts about this boy and what it would be like to be with him... i know the answer is probably dead simple but ive never been in such a place and im scared if i make the decision on my own ill make the wrong one. Please dont patronize me or belittle me, i just need help on what to do. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you for your answers, theyve been much help ad im sure i know what to do now.
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reader, Abella  +, writes (21 March 2011):
 This is a tough problem. The next field often seems lusher than the one you are standing in.
All relationships have an occasional problem on the way. And once resolved that builds trust.
If you walk away from your current guy all that trust will fall by the wayside.
There are some truly cute gorgeous guys (and occasionally a girl) who just love breaking up a steady couple. I am not suggesting this new guy is the same. And you have admired him from afar for a while.
But how is he going to view the situation if you just drop your current boy friend just on the strength of his remark that he loves you. Except he is not in a relationship with you. Perhaps a more manly thing might be for him to own up to your boy friend as well how much he fancies you. Just so there is a level playing field.
Because this new guy knows he is making a play for you, so he is being extra nice.
Your boy friend does not know this threat he exists. He thinks all is OK with you and him. It is a respect thing. At least he should know this threat to his happiness exists?
If it was you faced with a girl as pretty as you after your boy friend then I am sure you would want to know about this threat to your happiness.
I sure hope this works out OK
regards
Abella
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reader, Miss_Confused91 +, writes (21 March 2011):
Well hum think about it, do you want to be with your bf that you have now for a long time and don't want things to get messed up? If the anwser is yes then stick with your man and try to let go of this other guy. If you got a good thing don't go looking for something else when it might not work and then you can't get the one you love back.So, basically go with your heart if your heart tells you that yopu love your boyfriend stay there and don't give him up. Cuz when you do someone else will get him and you might regret your decsion..i hoped this helped.
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