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writes: My boyfriend and I broke up almost 6 months ago over a silly argument. Prior to the breakup we had been seeing each other for a year. Part of the breakup was my fault and I've apologised and stated my desire to continue our relationship since I never intended for it to end. He's stated that he was happy during the relationship too but if I try to raise the topic he would brush it off as "insignificant". Since then he insists that we are friends and his actions towards me border on brotherly or more like a best friend. He hardly introduces me to his friends and when he does it is as a friend. We hang out alot and he has volunteered advice about guys on many occassions. Sometimes he seems intent on setting me up with other guys. Yet since our breakup we have been intimate a couple of times. In addition, he's going abroad for some time and we won't see each other at all during that period. Though I try to act like it does not matter I love him and I'm hurt and confused by his attitude. How do I deal with this relationship?Hopelessly confused
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reader, camille  +, writes (24 August 2006):
 I'm going to be harsh. STOP being intimate with him. This is why you are confused. This is why you are talking as if you are still together when you are not. This is not a relationship (definitely not to him) and it sounds as if he's getting irritated by your questions and talking about the past and of how you want to be together. That's prpbably why he's not being a very nice friend. If you want to be friends with him because you think this will help you getting back together, it most certainly won't. You are making the healing process harder and are unable to move on until you break ties with him. Move on and forget about him as a boyfriend. He's made it clear but has then been intimate with you. That's not just his fault, but you must try to stay away from him and get on with your life. hopefully when he goes away it'll be easier for you to get over. It's been 6 months and if you'd lost contact then, you would possibly be feeling great by now. It will take a while, but in the meantime, do you really want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you?
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reader, layla +, writes (24 August 2006):
 If he doesnt fell happy to show you off hes not pleased to be with you or show his friends that hes got a caring and loving girlfriend then i think you may have to try to find a way to end it. Or you can have a long talk with him and tell him how you feel then if he cant except this then you can choose what to do from there.
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