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Kfan
writes:I have been good friends with this girl for over six years now. In fact, she is one of my best friends. A year ago we both moved and didn't really keep in touch. I have always had a bit of a crush on her off and on but I didn't want to act on it because I am horribly awkward with girls and morbidly afraid of regection. For the last two years though, I think I have seriously fallen in love with her. I was almost hoping that it was just a crush and would go away in our year apart, maybe that is why I didn't keep in touch. I am totally lost and I have no idea what to do. I really think I do love her, so what do I do? I really want to pursue a serious relationship with her. How do I let her know how I feel without ruining things between us? Thank you in advance for your help. ALL advice is welcome.
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reader, Kfan +, writes (31 August 2006):
Kfan is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you helpful girl, that is some good advice. I still think I need some time to think about it, what's another few days versus six years? I appreciate any more advice anyone has to give.
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reader, helpful girl  +, writes (30 August 2006):
 well i normally tell people when their scared of rejection to text the person they fancy and tell them that way instead, but in your situation i will not advice that to you. but heres the advice i think you should follow if you wish, since you have been good friends for 6 years and your feelings have always bee there no matter how much your tryed to denie to it, i would say yes it is love weather you like it or not. talk to her and tell her how you feel and how long youve been feeling this way then explain youve never told her because your friendship means alot to you and you never wanted to sacrifice your ralationship, then tell her your feelings and say to her i really hope i havent ruined our ralationship by telling you this. when you do tell her make sure you are alone so its nice and private then if you do get rejected at least you were both on your own and it stays confidentally between you 2. and think about it this way whats worse rejection from a stranger or some body you know really well? i think a stranger. whats the point in hideing your feelings when your still going to feel it? theres just no sense in it.
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