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writes:Hi there,I've been living with this girl for almost a year now. I actually also work with her as her supervisor. We get along great, hang out in work, talk a lot at home and we even go out sometimes with her friends. Over the past few days, I realised that I love her. I miss her when we're not hanging out. She's friendly and I can really be myself around her and very at ease. I don't feel the same way with her when I'm around other girls. She's different somehow. I don't know how to tell her this though because I'm certain it would create an awkwardness between us especially if we are living together. I don't want to lose our friendship either and I suck at relationships and don't want to start one that I couldn't continue.She's a beautiful girl and I'm just an average guy. She hasn't had a relationship in the time I've known her and when we go out she's not interested in meeting any guys!! She had met up with a guy about 2 months back for a coffee date but she hasn't seen him since. She also seems very picky when it comes to guys and it's just kind of depressing me that I keep thinking that I would surely be rejected because of this and then thats our friendship over and work will get awkward too. I want to suck up the feelings I have for her and just try and carry on with my life but how do I go about doing this? I feel it's the only option at this stage. Reply to this Question
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reader, Aunty Susie  +, writes (3 May 2011):
 Maybe the reason she hasn't had a relationship, in to time you've known her, is that she has these same feelings for you. This is a wonderful realisation that you 'love her'. So, start slowly moving a bit closer to her, and if its meant to be, it will happen for you. You sound as though you are both good together . Good luck.
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reader, hannah76  +, writes (3 May 2011):
 Hello,
This is a difficult one. If you ask and be rejected, you wouldn't want to be her friend. Surely not!!!! It's all or nothing really. The risk of asking puts the job atmosphere, home, and everything else at risk. So....you need to find out without asking! Try a few things that Cupidus mentions, BUT trust me, if you get no responses from her, put all these thoughts away. good luck!
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reader, cupidus  +, writes (3 May 2011):
 I guess you'll have to test the waters or continue living in frustration. A small gesture to see how she reacts. Leaning over to reach something where you get your face close to hers. Than leave it at that and watch her eyes and her body language to see how she reacts. In a week, observe to see if she starts getting physically closer to you. Than try to get closer to her face again and see if she turns to your face as if to want to kiss. Something like this, I'm rambling.
But offer a small gesture and become the observer.
This way you won't have to create an uncomfortable scene.
Good luck!
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