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I like the younger brother, but the older one is into me. Help?

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Question - (2 January 2009) 3 Answers - (Newest, 2 January 2009)
A female United States age 30-35, *rinsesslexi123 writes:

I am 14 years old and i don't have the best past with older boys.

The situation that Im in right now is difficult for me to figure out what to do.

First off the guy that likes me is a senior and I am a freshman. I like this boy who is a freshman and i have slept at his house about 5 times and we are pretty good friends and i really like him but i don't think that he's into the whole relationship thing. Anyway, his older brother thats a senior likes me and its really hard for me because the younger brother knows that he likes me and now I am afraid that he will think Im like off limits for him now that his brother likes me.

I have already given the younger brother that I like a hand job and he fingered me but who knows, it could all end now. The other day on New Years Eve it was so uncomfortable for me because i was with the older brother and he thought that i wanted to make out with him but i really didn't want to and i don't like him at all even though he is an older boy I really love his younger brother and I am afraid now that he wont ever like me.

I haven't told anyone that I like him either. The older brother also makes me feel really uncomfortable and I hate to be with him by myself because I really don't like him one bit. I really think I love his younger brother but I don't know what to do about it and it just makes me so sad thinking about it. Also i don't want to be rude to the older brother who likes me and tell him that i don't like him because he is very popular and I don't want him telling his friends that I am weird and uncool and I still want to be his friend I just wish it didn't have to be this way. And if i do tell him to stay away from him his younger brother may never like me more than a friend. Please someone i need a sign...

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A female reader, Prinsesslexi123 United States +, writes (2 January 2009):

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Prinsesslexi123 agony auntThanks Jmo that really helped me a lot to know someone else is going trough the same thing that I am.

And how do you change your age on this?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2009):

Change your age to show that you are 14.

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A female reader, Jmo United States +, writes (2 January 2009):

Jmo agony auntI've been through pretty much the exact situation you are when I was a freshman! I tried to alleviate my problem by cutting off ties with the both of them (which was hard because we all had mutual friends). I dated another guy for 3 years and when that went to hell, "little brother" was at my side. We ended up dating for about 3 years and there was no animosity (at least that's what they told me) in the family. In fact, I sort of became part of the family during that time. Things didn't work out and me and "little brother" didn't talk for some time. I moved on and started dating a new guy who just happened to be "big brother's" best friend. Eventually, "big brother" and I started hanging out together alone. In time, we started an intimate relationship. Now I'm still good friends with "little bro" and while he still has feelings for me, he's actually pushing me to be with his brother. Funny how things work out eh?

My point is family affairs can be pretty complicated and at times downright frustrating. I suggest some time away from the both of them and let the chips fall where they may. Whatever happens, happens, and it's not fair for you to feel stuck in a triangle. That's no fun. Hope this helps.

-Jmo

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