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*ndrew loves hali
writes:hi well I'm 15 and i had a girlfriend and she was the love of my life but i guess we found to many things to fight about and it ended after 3 years. long time huh? well my friends are a really big help cause they know that i loved her with everything and she broke up with me and my friends are being very supportive which is great. my friend Annie has been there for me from the start and has came over to my house like everyday and tried to make me feel better but i feel like im starting to develope feelings for her and i think she feels the same way too. but BIG problem Annie and Sedona are like best friends and Annie isnt choosing sides but Sedona has been busy so Annie is helpin me. should i ask Annie out, or not because of her and Sedonas friendship. i know me and Sedona arent goin out and i shouldnt be concerned about her and im not really but i dont want to have to have Annie lose her bff cause of me. i need help. what should i do. and no doubt Sedona would be mad if we went out cause she didnt wanna end things she had to.
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reader, andrew loves hali +, writes (20 April 2009):
andrew loves hali is verified as being by the original poster of the question um my bestfriend is a girl and i dont think Sedona would date a girl cause um thats not how she is. and i cant talk to Sedona its to had but if i have to i will.
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reader, wette460 +, writes (20 April 2009):
Whew! Sorry man, but you are going to have to call it quits and stop talking to Annie. I understand you have feelings for her, but friends of ex's are OFF-LIMITS!! This is an iron-clad, unspoken rule simply because of this fact: Picture how you would feel if the roles were reversed and Sedona developed feelings for one of your best friends? I'm sure you would be pretty pissed if he just said fuck it and dated her without even asking you. If you really have genuine feelings for her and feel like there's something there, you need to ask your ex if it is okay if you can possibly date Annie. If she says no then don't do it!! Like you said, it's not worth them losing each other's best friend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2009): Wow.
Kudos for being a thoughtful gentleman.
Some guys are probably like, yeah who cares, they might end up fighting over me haha I would enjoy that, etc.
If you ask her out you are placing a moral dilemma in her hands, and you don't know what she is going to choose.
She has been there for you so far, don't scare her off.
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