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41-50,
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writes:Hello,This is a pretty desperate act here but I need help. I have been with my girlfriend of three years and I love her with every fiber of my being but I have been lying to her about where I went to school for the entire duration of our relationship. It started when I we first met at our job at the time. We had a micro manager boss who was a real bastard to all of us but especially me since I was new. He was a real know-it-all so when he asked me where I went to school I said Columbia University. I didn't think I would make friends or even a girlfriend at the time while I was at this job so this "joke" persisted. A little later I had found my soul mate after our time at this job ended (we were downsized). I feared telling her the truth and still to this day I can't bring myself to tell her I'm not a genius, I'm just a regular guy. She's going to find out sooner or later. I don't know what to do! I love her so much I don't want to lose her. I know what I did was despicable but I'm a flawed human being that needs help. Do I tell her the truth? What can I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2010): Tell her the truth and also tell her why you lied. It's best to be honest that carry on with this lie which could cause a greater problem for you. It will also be a weight off your shoulders. She might be annoyed with you at first but then be glad that you were honest with her.
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reader, ms.rafaeli +, writes (6 January 2010):
Tell the truth. Explain to her what made u lie about that in first place. I don't see anything wrong with it. You guys have been together for a long time, I guess she would totally understand about that... And she should in my opinion! Its not a matter whether you're a genius or not. If she loves you, she will take u for who u are. Nobody's perfect, mate. Each everyone of us has flaws.
I agree with sonia, it's not like u cheated on her. Its not a big deal, but u gotta tell it to her. Gud luck.
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reader, sonia_06  +, writes (6 January 2010):
you have done nothing wrong it was all the fault of the person who worked with i should know i have worked with a few itys nnot as though you cheated and by rights you owe no one any explanation but honesty best so tell her sit her down tell her why and where you really went she will understand i told my current man about my crimina;l record he didnt mind as he had one so there you go honesty best
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