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anonymous
writes:I know they say women hit their sexual peak at 40, but my sex drive is driving me nuts. I've been off the pill for 2 years, but the surge in my drive didn't happen until about 6-8 months ago so I don't know if there's a connection there. I think about sex a lot during the day. I fantasize about other men and wonder what they'd be like in bed. I have a great boyfriend who is wonderful in bed, and I love him very much - he totally satisfies me and we have sex almost every night, so there's no excuse for me to think about sex so much, but just last night when we were having drinks with one of his band buddies, I was having fantasies about his friend, because he is incredibly cute and I couldn't help but picture him without his clothes on though I know I'd never cheat on my boyfriend because I couldn't live with myself. Still, I hate having these sexual feelings all the time. Sometimes during the day, I have to go into the women's private bathroom and masterbate so I can focus on my work! When my boyfriend changes clothes, I get wet at the sight of his body. If he's in the mood for sex, we can skip foreplay, I'm ready to roll and that is so unlike me! When I was married back a few years ago, I couldn't have cared less about sex and we always had to use lubricant because I could not become aroused. Now, I can't seem to turn it off! This must be how it is for 18-year old boys but I hate it. I just don't seem to have alot of control over it. Has anyone else ever had this problem? It's pretty distracting and I don't know what to do about it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2007): I know what you mean I am in my mid 30's and the last few months I am on fire. I am married to a man 12 years older that I and it is not working in bed. I am thinking about sex all the time and becoming a big flirt with every good looking man I see. I have never experancd anything like this and am scared I am going to get myself in trouble because I am fantising about men other than my husband.
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reader, leonard j.Douglas  +, writes (29 June 2007):
Here's what you do about your wonderful sexuality You Enjoy it and be thankful that you have that sex drive, that lots of men and women would give their eyeteeth to have. When it comes to sexual fantasies, they are healthy, and also perfectly normal.To better understand a woman's sexuality I would suggest that you read THE HITE REPORT By Shere Hite. Macmillan Publishing Co. ISBN 0-02-551851-8. It's a great book, and also it can,and will, answer alots of your questions. So enjoy your sexuality,you got one happy man who's not complaing. Shere Hite can do more for you than this old man. And if you ever figure out how to bottle-up you surplus sex-drive, Please send me some.
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reader, Cateyes  +, writes (29 June 2007):
 Personally I do not think the pill has anything to do with it. I got off the pill at 35 (I am 41), and for me, once I hit about 39...oh boy, look out! I have the same thoughts you could say, probably more so because I AM single and currently in no relationship....so every attractive man is being "viewed" by me in some way shape or fashion with or without clothes and well...you get the picture! One thing I can say is that I have never thought of one of my male friends (now) as seeing them in my dreams or naked or the such. Maybe because they just don't strike me in that way anymore, I really can't say for sure why. And that could be because mega years ago I did have a relationship with a male friend and it was just ruined because we did have sex because we did find each other attractive, etc...but it went down south you know. Personally...I just think it's our time.....love it and get it while you can...one day we just might not want to anymore!! ;)
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2007): stop complaining and enjoy natural body behaviour lol
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