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writes:I'm in such a difficult situation at the moment. I split with my boyfriend 2 months ago, but I still love him. We've stayed in contact since that day which I know we shouln't have because it's made it impossible to get over him. He still loves me too but doesn't want a relationship right now. Anyway, he has just found out he has cancer,it is treatable thankfully but I want to be there for him. I know the only way you can get over an ex is to stop contact but I just can't now. He's feeling pretty down and I want to be there for him because he hasn't got anyone else..but how can I get over him and be there at the same time?it's all getting me down, and I just want to feel happy again. Reply to this Question |
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2009): Call me insensitive, but I'm a firm believer of taking care of yourself first. You two are broken up so do whatever you need to do to get over him. Sure, he has some really tough times ahead of him but he's stated that he doesn't want a relationship, meaning that he now needs to find someone else to take care of him. My advice is to stay friendly if you can handle that, send 'get well' emails or maybe a phone call here and there, but don't go overboard as his personal caregiver. Spend this time healing your own wounds instead.
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reader, marieclaire  +, writes (5 November 2009):
 you can't do both obviously so i'm thinking you either suck it up and be there for him or you leave him to it and get your life back. i'm not being judgy or anything it's totally up to you (and him too). so you just have to make a decision about what is more important to you right now
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