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writes: Well,:) I hope every New Orleanian is having a happy Mardi Gras so farI kinda got a little brave today and tried talking to my crush more than I usually did. I was passing out flyers that had to do with an exciting event going on involving my creative arts schoolIt's sort of a writing thing and I tried telling him how fun it would be(Though I was so nervous that I forgot to say what I actually wanted to say, which was "You don't have to if you don't want to)I felt like I was sort of pressuring him into doing something that he may not even be interested in doingbut what I saw that pleased me was that he took the time to actually read the flyer and then he put it in his booksackI know this means that he still might not even appear at the event but on the inside I was like :) yayand then since it's Mardi Gras I asked him if he was going to any parades this year and he looked at me and was like.............so that's when I was likeOk, time to back off now haha.So, I guess I tried to talk him a little bit more is because I felt like if all I did was just say hi to him all year I wouldn't really get anywhere turns out it works both ways. The teacher told me that he doesn't talk because he doesn't like for anyone to hear him and that I should try whispering a little when talking to him.So, in my head I'm thinking that maybe since he's Asian(I know this doesn't go for all Asians)he may be a little embarrassed by his accent which is why he makes sure people can barely hear him when he speaks.Too bad he doesn't know that I wouldn't care how thick his accent is.So, as I'm learning to look before I leap I am beginning to understand that the guy that I like is very quiet, shy, and reserved(and only speaks to those he knows from early childhood)And I know the smart thing would probably be to move on but I usually can't help but to crush on a person forEVER until I get some type of closure(or if he suddenly disappears from my life)And with quiet people I almost never get closure so this is gonna be a while...When I tried to speak with him that time was I smothering him though and if you guys don't mind I would like to know what is considered to be smothering.Happy Mardi Gras
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2012):
the guy can't even talk to you, unless you throw yourself at him I don't see how you'll get any closure out of this cause he won't make the move at least that's what I think from my experience with shy people, And there comes the problem cause if you're too obvious like you show that you're interested you may come across as pushy... Maybe you should try to befriend him first, cause he's not even comfortable in your presence yet, he can't bring himself to talk loud enough... say that his accent is cute, ask from what country he is show interest in him ( not romantic interest ) it may put him at ease, try to find topics of conversation that you may have in common...
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