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writes:My boyfriend is in the middle of his final exams, and he needs to do better than usual to get the minimum results for the masters he wants.He tells me every day how my support is the only thing keeping him going and that I'm the only support he has. He says that being with me is the best thing that's ever happened to him. He's actually really happy most of the time.I'm miserable in the relationship and I feel trapped. He knows that I've been unhappy for a while and that it keeps getting worse. He's a great guy and doesn't mean to hurt me but I still keep getting hurt. At this point it's effecting me quite badly and I'm upset a lot of the time. For weeks now I've been waiting for his exams to be over and for him to come home for the summer so we can break up.Is it worse for me to be there for him and prolong my own pain, or to break up and hurt him so badly, over Skype and with such terrible timing?Thanks so much for reading and replying, it means a lot 3
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reader, confusedlover10  +, writes (18 May 2011):
 I think that you should wait because if you tell him now, then that would only make it harder for him to succeed on his exams because he's gonna wondering the whole time what went wrong. however, before you decide to break up with him, maybe you should talk to him about it 1st. you never know, this could jus be a temporary thing because its exam time and he's really trying to focus. my advice to continue to be there for him through the exams, and once they are over, talk to him about your concerns because thats the only way he will know that something is wrong, because if you break up with him before talking to him, he's gonna be clueless.
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reader, fishdish +, writes (18 May 2011):
 If I were you I would wait so I wouldn't jeopardize my partner's future. Maybe you can just tell him you want to give him space so he can concentrate on school, and so you can sort of distance yourself from him before breaking up. exams shouldn't be more than a couple of weeks though if he doesn't like this plan.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2011): How long have you been together? Are his exams over now? How is he hurting you?
From the limited info you've given I'd advise you to not break up with him on skype and definitely not if he's still in the middle of his exams. While I can sympathise with how you feel, it would be selfish and a cowards way out to tell him like that. If you're not even seeing him in person atm then surely you could wait a little while longer and then break the news to his face.
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