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writes:I kissed my friend's boyfriend about a month ago, I was drunk. I told another friend and asked her to keep it a secret as I decided not to tell her as it seemed the best thing to do at the time. Since then me and her have got really close and not long ago her bf ended it with her but the person I told, told her. She's really upset and angry, everyone's against me, she said I've to talk to her face tomorow and I don't know how to make things better, I don't want to lose a friend over this. help!
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (12 March 2009):
 I would apologize once, twice, thrice, as long as it takes. Grovel. Beg. And then plead. After that, it's up to her to accept it and forgive you or not.
But don't expect her to. When all is said and done, that's her decision.
You have to realize that you are responsible for your own actions, and that means drinking too much is no excuse. You need to be responsible enough to stop drinking before you get so sloppy drunk that you kiss your friends boyfriends and cause your own problems! There are lots of actions that you can not take back once they are done. You can't take back a secret that you have leaked or words spoken in anger either, so tread lightly and be Responsible for yourself and all of your own words and actions in the future (Once you tell one person, it's no longer a secret and they always get out). That way, you'll have less to apologize for. It's a mark of your own character and it will shape your future.
You wouldn't be out of line to tell off the friend that leaked the secret, BTW. That was a pretty rotten thing to do by breaking your trust and then delivering that news to your friend after they broke up. It was like pouring lemon juice on a paper cut. I can only think that she wanted to show your friend that she shouldn't be bothered crying over him because he was a bastard anyways, but instead, she reacted by deflecting most of her anger at you instead of him for dumping her. In any case, you have permission to tell her off from the Aunties. Good Luck avoiding these mistakes in the future and I hope that you and you friend can get past this.
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