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writes:I am 35 years old and have been with my husband for 7 years .. i found out 8 months after our marriage that he was cheating on me even before we got married... I forgave him.. in Sept 2012 i lost my baby at 6 months pregnant and 2 weeks later found out that he has been cheating on me for years... actually 6 years out of 7 years he has been cheating telling other womans the same romantic stuff he tells me... i forgave him becuase i was hurt with the babay.. recently i found out he has been emailing with woman again... i told him to leave which he did 10 days ago...now again hes begging but i really can not go on like this... is anyone else in the same situation Reply to this Question
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reader, destoyed78 +, writes (17 April 2013):
destoyed78 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your replies.. It brings me comfort to know that you guys think like me and I'm not the crazy one.
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reader, eddie85  +, writes (17 April 2013):
 It sounds like for most of your dating "life" and married life with this man, he has cheated on you. What makes you think he won't cheat again and what makes you think you know all about his current indiscretions? I am guessing he has had more flings with women than you even know about.
At some point you have to cut your losses. By continuing to be with him you are risking venereal diseases, AIDS, and the possibility that he could father other children -- and thus affect your income after he starts to pay child support. Also, how can you possibly trust him again? What is it going to realistically take to make you think this time he really means it?
Something is either tragically wrong with him or you as a couple. When infidelity is this repeated the only one who is going to be on the receiving end of "hurt" is you. The true question here is -- do you want to sign up for another round of it or would you rather give yourself the opportunity to find a man who truly wants to be with just you?
Ultimately the decision is yours on what to do, but I hope you reflect on some of the questions I have asked you and answer them for yourself.
Eddie
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reader, oldbag  +, writes (17 April 2013):
 Hi
Its enough to cope with,losing the baby, he should have been there supporting you,not looking for other women, he is no man and the relationship has no future,he will never change.
Your right you can't go on like this - leave him to beg,be extra strong and tell him it's over for good. Then get a lawyer and divorce him.
You deserve way better than this lowlife.
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