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writes:Hello.l I am a female office worker who just cannot seem to get on with her colleagues mostly when it comes to interpersonal relationships at work, although I still socialise with them outside work sometimes. Don;t get me wrong, I have lots of freinds and an active social life, but somehow when it comes to work, I get impatient , and feel angry, as I really do not like being stuck in an office all day. Outside work, I sing in 2 bands, and that is what I could like to be doing full time. I have been hauled in to meetings a number of times now by my boss, and have now been told that I need to watch my body language,and they are concerned that I cannot get on with people, and that I need to learn to work under pressure better, or next time, they will discipline me if someone else makes a complaint. I do not dislike my colleagues at all,and I feel that they do not dislike me, but somehow, I feel resentful towards my having to be here on some level, and cannot move as the job situation is bad out there at the moment, and I do not want to risk it, as I have a permanent job, know how much I have coming in and bills to pay!! It seems I have now upset about 4 or 5 people with my impatience and attitude over the last 2 years or so. How can I stop myself feeling so angry when I am at work? Do I need counselling? Thanks :o)
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2010): I am in the same age range as you and also get very irritated at work. I think it is because you don't want to be there imprisoned for eight hours a day and your resentment is coming out. i feel the same and sit staring at the window wishing I was elsewhere. The only thing I can suggest is to put a different spin on your thought processes and accept that you are in effect trapped there for a certain number of hours but being there is allowing you to live and do things you like doing outside of work. With your colleagues try to distance yourself somewhat and give them nore time in whatever they are doing. Think that it really doesn't matter how long they take to do something and don't let it wind you up. Find the time to make tea and coffee for them and chat about rubbish withoout casting any opinions and soon things will change for the better.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (26 February 2010):
Perhaps you have a lot going on in your life, such as all your hobbies, that you expect people to be just like you. Active, and very hard working. So when something doesn't' work out, naturally you feel frustrated. And as you say, perhaps there it is a lot of frustration building up in you because you're not where you want to be in your job. I kind of know how you feel there. I opened my own company and it's not taking off as much as I would like. It can be frustrating. I think counselling would help you. You seem to have a lot on your mind, and to get it out would be a great thing for you. Good luck.
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reader, mystiquek  + ♥, writes (26 February 2010):
 Yes, it does sound as though counselling might be a good idea. Sounds like your pent up frustration is bubbling over into work and obviously people are picking up on it. Since its job related, perhaphs there is something through the job you can go to? I wish you luck, I truly know what its like to have a job that you'd prefer not to have (I took complaints for 10 years on my job!). You need an outlet NOT at work. Can you take breaks and go out and power walk, ect?? That might help too! Good luck! Try to stay cool. Like you said, jobs are hard to find nowdays!
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