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writes:Me and this guy started dating December of 08. We did everything together, we were practically attatched at the hip. He was my world. We had some problems with communicating and everything became too much and we broke up. I didn’t was heartbroken but I did. We tried to be friends a few times but everytime we’d get in an argument over the past and stop. He said horrible things to me, called me a waste to the world , as well as called my best friend a whole bunch of names.About a month ago we started talking again. My friends, family, everyone I know hates it and ive almost lost my best friend. we barely talk and its not the same anymore. Despite my insistant that me and the guy are just friends ive basically been dating him for a few weeks, despite promising my friend that I wouldn’t. What do I do? I rushed into going back out with him, just because I couldn’t resist. I meant for us to be just friends, nothing more, ever again. that didn’t happen and now I don’t know what to do.If my friend finds out, shell never speak to me again.This is the girls im moving in with in a few months, we cant not be speaking.So what do I do?
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (6 July 2010):
You need to ask yourself why you're willing to go back to a guy who really brings out the toxic side of a relationship and treats you so badly. Your friends and family are screaming at your to end it. They can see that this guy is no good. You're just going to cause yourself even more pain. Why do you want to be with a guy who clearly isn't suitable at all. When everyone around you is telling you not to do something, or not to see someone, you can be sure that they mean it. You need to start prioritising your life and who matters in it. Because if you continue with this guy, he will have a great time using you and abusing you, and all those people around you will just let you get on with it. Then when he's done with you, he'll dump you and treat you badly again. The problem will be that you'll have no one to turn to. You can stop seeing this guy any time you like. You're just not trying. Try this. Phone him, tell him it's over and cut contact. That's all. It's not hard. Getting over him may take more time. But you need to get away from him. You don't want to end up with everyone thinking you're a loser and turning against you. This is the sort of thing that just drives good people away. So, I think you need to choose now. Either choose this guy over everyone else. Or choose everyone else and cut contact with this guy. But think carefully. This guy hurt you, used you, laughed at you and now will do the same thing because you're letting him in.
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