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writes: I've been living with my gf for a few years now and her behaviour has changed rapidly.She has 2 children from a previous who i have a good relationship with. she recently stated she wants no more children now but did when i didn't!Instead she treats the dog like our child. She's stubborn, selfish and lazy and fixated with her friends. She lost her job a few months ago and barely worked since.If confronted about any faults, she accepts no criticism at all and tries to make me feel guilty. I do love her and want my relationship to work but not on these terms obviously. She never seems truly happy unless she is out partying.I work full time and money is not too much of a problem but feel she contributes nothing to our relationship, spending time with her best pal rather than doing any house work or constructively looking for work. I cannot accept things as they are and have considered playing her at her own game to shock her out of this destructive routine.Talking is impossible, as she soon goes back to how things were. I know she has never cheated on me but her priorities are all wrong i feel.I just want a happy life with the girl i love. Can i achieve that?
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reader, I Waited For The One  +, writes (7 January 2007):
 I know where your comeing from here because my ex girlfriend was the shame as your girlfriend.
my ex was never happy unless she was out drinking with her mate's when she was in she moaned she was bored out of her head all the time. she moaned if i didn't go out with her. and when i did she always took a mate along. and then i would be ignored all the time.
the only time she even said anything 2 me. was when she needed another drink or when her mate's went toilet.
i remember this 1 time being in a club with her and we was danceing and as soon as a friend of my family got in there she pushed me aside all night.
and by the of the night she was dirty danceing with my brother and woundered y i got mad.
when i first met my ex she was not like this she was kind, loveing and she cared about me 4 month's into our r-ship. everything changed.
she wanted more night's out. more time 2 herself. more time 2 see her mate's.
me haveing no mate's always got lefted everywhere.
i would of been up 4 her going out which i always did. i don't work and she does. and i always paid 4 her night's out but she seem's she love's her night's out so much when she go's out she doesn't go home 2 me or her brother's.
now 3 week's after us splitting. nofthing as changed except the fact she live's with her brother. and she always going out with her mate's. u just need 2 deal with it or get a new bird.
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reader, DocSilverback  +, writes (7 January 2007):
 Man, you have already answered your question. Please re-read what you wrote. You wrote all these nasty little things that she does. You wrote that talking to her is IMPOSSIBLE. So what's left? Nothing. If you cannot communicate with her, you've got nothing to solve. Think about it. Go hang with your buddies (if she didn't spend all of your money yet) and have a good time. They probably can help you out too. Later.
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