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writes:Lately, I've been thinking more and more about orgasms. I've had three serious boyfriends, and three sex partners and I've never had an orgasm once, not during sex or any other sexual activity, besides rubbing and I wonder if I'll ever have one.It never used to bother me, but lately it's really starting to bug me. I want one so bad, everyone talks about how great it feels. I love my current boyfriend so much and I don't think he knows that I've never had one. I've had sex that feels really good, good enough to make me (moan) I guess.. but.. you know.How do I achieve this? and will I ever?.. I no longer want a sex life that doesn't satisfy me. My boyfriend is surely satisfied after sex, but what do I get?
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reader, JaddeDragon  +, writes (17 April 2010):
General answers are great but here's one that may actually help you out.
The best thing for you to do is to first locate your G-Spot on your own. The G-Spot is located along the inner wall of the vagina, about 2-3 inches in, towards the stomach.
Lay down on your bed and pull your knees up. Insert your finger into your vagina and gently stroke the front wall behind your pelvic bone. You're looking for an area that feels different from the rest of our vagina. It has a different texture. It will feel a little rough or bumpy like a ruffle of skin. This area will be sensitive to pressure. Once you find your G-spot you can then experiment with what actually makes you feel good, gentle motions or harder pressure. Once you learn this then when you are having sex you can figure out a way to move or have your man move that will put pressure on this spot and give you an orgasm. You may have to experiment with positions to figure out what is best for you.
People are dead wrong when they say that a man should know how to pleasure you. It's your body, knowing how it works is what is going to allow you to achieve a satisfying sex life. Most men WANT to learn what makes you feel good, but if you don't know what it is then you aren't much help to them!
Also my last bit of advice is to be open. Don't be afraid to say I want to do this, or I want to try this.
Good luck!
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (17 April 2010):
 Yes, you will, when your boyfriend learns how to please a woman, or when you are with a man who knows how. The best I can offer is available in the Web site's archives. Enter: Double M on female orgasms - in the above search field.
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reader, alwaysasmile +, writes (17 April 2010):
Ive been through that same situation! I have two things that helped me. First, self exploration. You need to take some time and figure out on your own exactly what you like. The other thing I would suggest is tell your partner whats going on, and if tell them you want to experiment. Next time you have sex let him know that its just for you this time and if something is working for him but just isnt satisfying you that you need to change it up.hope this helps :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2010): I would like to know the same answer...However, I have read that women will encounter one partner in their lifetime who will give them an orgasm through intercourse. Otherwise, its pretty much as you described a climax without the orgasm.
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reader, alwaysasmile +, writes (17 April 2010):
Ive been through that same situation! I have two things that helped me. First, self exploration. You need to take some time and figure out on your own exactly what you like. The other thing I would suggest is tell your partner whats going on, and if tell them you want to experiment. Next time you have sex let him know that its just for you this time and if something is working for him but just isnt satisfying you that you need to change it up.
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reader, Lydiaaaa Needs Help. :]  +, writes (17 April 2010):
Hey,I'm of a similar age to you so I understand what it's like as I had a similar problem in that I couldn't reach orgasm but after a long time, I finally came to an orgasm.The best thing to do is relax yourself, you wont have an orgasm if you're worried or anxious about anything. Relax and take your time.What 'methods' are you trying? Are you using clitorical stimulation? It's hard to help without knowing what you've tried so if you want to you can message me with what you've tried, and I could give you some relevant websites and help through personal experience :)Please feel free to private message me, I'd be happy to help as I know how frustrating it can be.I hope to hear from you soon to help resolve this issue,Lydiax
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2010): Research it online and I'm sure you will find some answers
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reader, IHateWomanBeaters +, writes (17 April 2010):
 Well, you should realize that most women cannot orgasm from vaginal penetration...If you cannot orgasm from vaginal, there is always oral. If you ae really interested in getting an orgasm, you should tell your boyfriend to do oral on you.
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