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writes:I know a girl for sometime and we do share some chemistry between us. Now I have invited her to come out for a coffee which she agreed to. Unfortunately her friend from overseas is also over to c her (didn't c that coming) and so she wants to bring him/her as well. How do I handle this situation since I was wanting to tell her how I felt. Do I skip the event (maybe with some excuse) or just go ahead. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2010): Yeah you go ahead. Exactly what Dirtball said is true.
Don't try too hard to impress either of them but as Dirtball said if you impress the friend then you're away with it.
I've dated girls that weren't really interested or attracted to me based solely on advice from their friends because they thought I would be good for them hehe. Not ideal I know but you get the point.
One thing I disagree with Dirtball on though is the ending. Personally if the date went well then I wouldn't pull them aside I'd ask them for another date in front of their friend. Shake the friends hand and give the girl a goodbye peck on the cheek. I find that both the girls and the friend that's with them respect that because it takes guts, plus it gives them something to talk about and remember me by after I leave. It also makes my intentions blatantly clear.
If she is having any reservations or inhibitions about meeting you again, then as long as the friend thinks you're nice then they'll probably do all the reassuring for you.
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (25 October 2010):
 Go ahead with it. If the friend likes you that's an even bigger in. Impress the friend and you have a better chance with her. Play it casual and have fun. Before you leave take her aside and let her know you had a good time and you hope that the two of you can do it again sometime, or suggest a different follow up date.
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