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writes: I am 14 and never been kissed, only had one boyfriend 3 years ago. My best friend has a really nice boyfriend, and he has all these problems at home like with his family and he just had a death in his family, and my best friend has been really insensitive towards him and is constantly bored with him. I feel really bad for his situation and I find myself imagining kissing him, or imaging hugging him or being there for him when he feels bad. I find myself imagining going over to his house and totally hitting it off, and kissing him! He's been trying to plan a kiss with my best friend for a about a week now, her first kiss, and she doesn't want to kiss him, but I imagine a situation where she's not there so he turns to me and then kisses me! I feel like a bad friend... do I really have a crush on him and what should i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2008): i think you do have a crush on him tbh. If she is bored of him and doesnt want to kiss him and everything then to be honest i dont no why she is with him. I think you should talk to her and say about being there for him and then does she actually wana be with him or something because she must have a reason to be with him even if its just to say she has a boyfriend, which is really harsh.
You could just be a good mate to him and be there for him you never know. Just dont do anything with him behind your mates back .. if she doesnt want to be with him and they end it then theres nothing stopping you and him being together but you sudnt do anything behind her back because you could end up losing them both.
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reader, lestatmighty  +, writes (5 July 2008):
talk to your friend, and explain that you really like him, if she feels the way you say she does she should just leave you and him be
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reader, Dazzerg +, writes (5 July 2008):
 You may well have a crush but it is bourne of you feelings of compassion for this guy. I think it is significant that all you feel like doing is comforting him. In and of itself your compassion is admirable but I would advise strongly against doing anything like you are planning as this will cause further distress for everybody involved.
Maybe you can have a little talk to your friend and try and persuade her that her bf really needs her. Failing that you can still be a good friend to this guy by listerning and advising where possible, just don't cross that line. Good luck.
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