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I ignored him when he chased me, now I am chasing him! He says he loves me but is not IN love anymore!??

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Question - (27 July 2008) 3 Answers - (Newest, 2 August 2008)
A female Malaysia age 30-35, anonymous writes:


I am in confusion.

This guy who had been chasing me for 2 years have been very withdrawn for the past 6 months.

I do not blame him because during the time when he was chasing me I had been acting like a spoilt brat and get mad at him for little things.

However, I have come to realise how foolish i had been and I have changed. I really want things to work out with him. He has also said that he wants things to work out.

but now he hardly ever reply my text messages, and most of the time i ask him out, he will have excuses not to meet me. When i ask him was he ignoring me, he would deny it and blame it on his workload.He would say that he still cares, but i hardly hear from him anymore, unless i call him or message him, which he does not reply 100% of the time.

The puzzling thing is that despite treating me cold (by not texting or calling me), he still says he loves me, and treats me very nice when he's around me.

Really need help to understand what is goin on in his mind.

he says he loves me but is not in love with me anymore. And i'm going mad when he is ignoring my calls and messages. How should i know that he still cares? IS it me being too insecure or is it that he is getting sick of me? I have told him a few times that i cannot take it when he ignores my sms/ calls. he knows very well but he still does it even though he says that he cares.

Last time, he would be so eager to meet me and will call me almost everyday.But not anymore now. WHY?

I really love him, but should i jus let go since it is really driving me mad.


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A male reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2008):

just stop ! and have a heart 2 heart talk with him tell him what he really feeels about you !

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A female reader, sam12344321 United Kingdom +, writes (27 July 2008):

sam12344321 agony auntI'm not sure is this is really an answer to your question but i'm in exactly the same boat as you are except i'm pregnant. My boyfriend of 3 years used to chase me all the time now i'm chasing him, he also ignores my texts and it upsets me. He always wants to be with his friends and told me that he dosnt love me as much as he used to. I hate men!

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2008):

Why hes not like that anymore? Because every dating advice on the internet says he should thats why..

You should be glad for him he finally got over his pathetic crush on you and focus on important stuff like getting a life.

You should tell him honestly how he feels, he only started playing games because you did.

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