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writes:My ex and I broke up about two weeks ago after a two-year relationship. Today, we were talking online and he told me to come over but I kept refusing, but eventually, I gave in. We ended up hooking up and now, I feel like it's going to take me longer to get over him. What's worse about that is that he doesn't want a relationship; he just wants fun and sex with a girl he can hang out with all the time and I (and this other girl - long story) just so happen to be the best candidates. I'm so not into that! I'm a one-man woman and I want a guy who will treat right!!! What can/should I do to control these urges and stop myself from hooking up with my ex? I need to get over him! It's better for my mental/emotional health!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2008): I can't believe this guy is jerking you around after a 2 year relationship, trying to make you compete for his attention with some other girl. You are so right that you need to move on. That can be very difficult and there is only one way to make it work: SEVER ALL TIES. Realistically, the chances of him being able to give you what you want right now are slim. Respect yourself and demand respect in return. There are other great guys out there, and it sounds like you could definitely use a new boy! Someone will be very happy you are back on the market, just be strong and patient.
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reader, greenlightgo +, writes (20 December 2008):
Its going to be hard because I was in the same postion you were in.. First off try staying busy so he'll stay off your mind.. If you haven't delete his number out your phone.. even if you know it like the back of your hand. Act like you don't know it.. But if you keep talking to him.. its going to be harder to get over him..
good luck..
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reader, Lizzybeth01 +, writes (20 December 2008):
 Break all contact with him until you're over him. I know it's easier said than done but it will prove to be the best way to get over him. Go to the bookstore and buy "It's Called a Breakup Because It's Broken" - it's a great book to read to help you get over someone and they have whole chapters devoted to what your asking about! I've read it lots of times :)
I've also taped a note to my phone that said "Don't Call him - Don't Answer if he Calls" - to make sure I resisted the urges :)
Good Luck! and it will be much better after some time - and it won't be nearly as hard!
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