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writes:i've been speaking to this girl on my tumblr and all of a sudden she added 2 x's (xx) at the end of her messages so i did the same then she added a third (xxx) and we've both stuck with 3 we spoke everyday mostly at least 1 message a day as she comes on late as she works and i'm at college. However she replied to my message on saturday morning and i replied on saturday evening but she hasn't sent me anything since. she posted on sunday and monday and i thought she might have done it via mobile app or something but its bugging me atm it always does as i get a bit paranoid by thinking i've done something.were only friends and we're getting to know each other atm and I asked her if she lived with her parents etc and at the end i added "squeeze ;(" because she mentions in a video she posted that its a word that makes her laugh.I want to message her to see if she got my message or if she's ok etc but when I've done that in the past it hasn't worked out and i don't want her to think i'm desperate for attention etc. should I just leave her to message me back or if i should message her what should I say that doesn't sound desperate like are you ok? etc.what should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (9 April 2013):
 don't have relationships through text messages.
clearly you like her and want to get to know her better
pick up the phone and call her and ask her to go get some coffee.
oh wait... if she's LONG DISTANCE (more than a couple of hours)... then I'd let it go and not even bother.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2013): She is working and may not have time at the moment. Don't freak because she breaks the routine a little. Practice patience and allow her time to get back to you.
Here's some gratuitous advice you didn't ask for.
You are using texting and atm to get to know someone. There really is no official relationship between you; so you shouldn't be too anxious for a response. Relax. If she likes you, she won't keep you waiting too long. Please make no mention of how you felt about it to her.
Please don't use "paranoid" to describe your reaction when you didn't get a "dead-line" response. That confirms your desperation and anxiety over something not that serious.
Always approach a woman with confidence and ease. Don't be too eager, she'll pick up on it.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (9 April 2013):
Don't ever ask if someone got your message unless it's important. Don't get ants in your pants- I know I read messages when I'm unable to reply and sometimes forget about them.
Just wait a few days then send her another message or comment. Keep it simple.
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