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22-25,
shian1983
writes:Can someone please help me with this tough situation. I have this mate we're both married we both obviously have our own lives, however I see her as my mate but I don't think she sees me the same.... i could be wrong. She only calls me when she wants to go out! I do enjoy going out with her as she is my only mate and we do have a good time when we do go out, but sometimes i think she only calls me and texts me when she wants to have a fun time, she is the only person i consider to be my friend so i dont really want to break the little friendship that we have. What should i do, should i ignore her when she calls me to go out and be friendless or should i stop being so negative and thank god i've got a friend to go out with?? x
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reader, Wild Thaing  + ♥, writes (12 June 2007):
 Why are you investing so much of your emotional energy on this one friend? You need to think about the answer to this question to better understand what is going on in your mind.
If you feel comfortable posting the answer we might be able to provide better insight on your situation. Good luck and take care.
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reader, atomickeg  +, writes (12 June 2007):
Realize that not everyone want a deep relationship. Some people just enjoy going out with their 'freinds' for fun times and laughs. Stop being so critical. If you want a deeper relationship with the person then try to build it gradually. If you can't do that then just enjoy the relationship you have now.
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reader, Aunty Sarah +, writes (12 June 2007):
 Broaden your horizons, get out and about and make new friends. When I got divorced I had the same problem as all my friends where married. I had one single friend who did to me as you are explaining. If you have a good time, then go out with her and use each night out as a stepping stone to meet other people. I made a lot of new friends by going to college. You can do something just for fun, it dosn't have to be an intense course.
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