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writes:I am really down and depressed at the moment, I feel it is a lot of effort to smile, but I am trying! I have a constant feeling of anxiety in my chest and keep having to take deep breaths. The reaso is because I am in limbo land at the moment over my ex.He finished things last June over a rough patch, then came back into my life recently and admitted that perhaps we didnt have to break up after all. We ended up meeting a few times and sleeping together the last time. Now he has gone to Australia with his friend traveling (he said to get away from what hurts i.e. me). He said when he gets back let's see how we feel.However, he has messed my head up and now I feel I cant move on, 6 months is a long time to wait, but I dont want to move on and meet someone else because I fear that if my ex comes back in June and wants me back, I will jump at the chance and end up hurting the new person.I've decided to stay on my own for these 6 months, but I am so down. The main thing getting me down is that I dont have anything in concrete from my ex. I just want to know what is going on!
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (13 January 2009):
 You have made the right decision to stay on your own for 6 months, even if you dont have anything concrete to go on from your ex at least you have recognised that you still love him and would hurt someone else in the long run.
Waiting will be so hard but the 6 months should go quick if you keep yourself busy - get involved in lots of hobbies and see friends and family. Take some time out for yourself - do what you like to do. Do things you forgot you loved....anything you can do to keep yourself occupied!
In the 6 months prepare yourself for both possible outcomes....on the one hand he could return and be more in love with you than ever and you get back together and everyone is happy. On the other hand, he might come back and have met someone else out there and realised he doesnt want your relationship anymore and end things properly with you. Make sure you are ready for both outcomes and that you dont pin all your hopes on getting back together.
You clearly still love him so the only thing you can do is wait, this guy is taking some time to figure things out in his head so he wont be able to give you the answer you need until he gets back.
Keep busy and stay strong! good luck!
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