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writes:My husband always say I'm the only beautiful and attractive woman for him.He says he doesn't find any other women beautiful or attractive.In fact I can't believe him because he's a man.But when I asked my cousin,my sister,my nephew and some of my husband's friends if it was possible,they all said without hesitation "yes,it's possible,he's a really honest man and if he says so,it must be the truth".Everyone trusts what he says but I can't trust him so there are some problems between us.He says "you don't trust me,but the base of a relationship is trust and you don't trust me".I feel so bad those times.I have never seen him looking at other women or commenting on other women.And his friends also said that he never commented on any women.I want to believe him,but how can I do it?Help me.
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reader, Daisy_Daisy  +, writes (19 July 2012):
 Have you been let down by a man previously? It sounds like you have. If so, you need to appreciate that not every man is the same. Be careful not to push your husband away. It's possible that the continuous doubting could make him unhappy enough to leave the relationship - in which case you might feel proven right but it won't have been his fault. If there are issues from a past relationship you need to tackle those issues. Good luck x
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2012): I do find it weird that he says he doesn't find any other women attractive, and it's not because he is a men. I think everyone find many people attractive. The important thing is if he aks on it or not. However, I don't really understand why him saying that to you bothers you...
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reader, BondGirl72  +, writes (19 July 2012):
 Unfortunately this IS a time when I can say that you are letting your own insecurities get the best of you. If you had a reason not to trust him, I could understand your feelings, but you don't. You need to put some faith and trust in your husband before you ruin the good thing you have. You would not lump all women in the same category, so why are you doing it to men? You are lucky to have a husband like that. You can believe him by stopping the negative self talk about men that you seem to have. This is YOUR problem, not his.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (19 July 2012):
 "i can't believe him because he's a man"
well that's just BS... because he's a man he lies?
because he's a man he's not trustworthy?
what if he said "i can't trust her because she's a woman"?
is that right or fair?
what has HE personally ever done to you to make you not trust him?
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reader, Serpico +, writes (19 July 2012):
You have not a shread of reason not to trust him. All you are doing is stressing your relationship with no foundation to do so.
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