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36-40,
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writes:my bf and i have been together for 1 1/2 now n we love each other alot. we have a great relationship inside and outside of the bedroom but the only problem is in all that time i have never gotten an orgasm. he's my first and i knowi'm not hhis but he always said that he got good reviews before. its not that he cannot perform he just does what he likes. can you suggest ways in which i can let him know what's going on without makinghim feel bad? i reallylove him buti really want one too!!!
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (6 June 2008):
 Do you know how to orgasm? Do you masterbate? The only way to teach him is if you know your own body. Usually, a couple has to learn together and teach each other how you give pleasure to our partners. If he hasn't given you an orgasm yet, he obviously doesn't understand that women don't orgasm by penetration alone, less that 20% of women do. Most - 75% - need the clitoris stimulated as well - either by someones hand during penetration, or by receiving oral sex. You might want to buy a sex manual as a "bedroom surprise present" and use it to open the discussion that you're not quite "getting there"... and then see about copying a few of the techniques. The old standard was the Kama Sutra and the Joy of Sex, but there are many more good sex manuals out there. Have fun practicing AND practice safe sex!
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reader, Fiona xxx  +, writes (6 June 2008):
 Does he know where your clitoris is?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2008): I suggest that you loving explain to him how you feel,and that you gently guide him, take his hand, show him how you want to be stimulated and enjoy the learning and discovering together(and please don't ever cheat yourself and fake an orgasm).
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reader, sugar1  +, writes (6 June 2008):
You have to talk to him, tell him your concerns or you will eventually become disatisfied with your sexual relationship and explore else where... begin by asking him to do things that you need to be satisfied sexually if he cares he will... which it sounds like he does...
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